How do you handle a distructive lying 7 year old girl...?

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H.J - posted on 08/09/2009

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Tell her next time she feels like doing it to come to you and you can give her something to distroy then get out an old news paper get her to rip it into little shreads and then put it back together again with some sticky tape! With the lying punish her the way you would for anything else give her a chance to tell the truth and then take away something she likes and tell her that you got it for her by being honest and the only way she will get it back is by showing she can be honest and keep being honest. If she does it again take it and something else away, the time period being double this time!

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George - posted on 09/16/2009

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The same way you handle a 11 year old lying stealing son,???

I tock him to the cop-shop and that gave hom a fright.

H.J - posted on 09/05/2009

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I hope things are getting better. Have you tried separate 1:1 time with her? Hopefully now she is venting her frustration in a more positive way. One thing I forgot to say with the ripping up the news paper is to get her each time she makes a rip to say what she is angry about it is a therapy technique I was taught for a child with a behavioral disorder and I have since used it with children with rage and anger. It is a good way to find out what it is that is upsetting her in a fun way that she will enjoy. Then when she is sticking the paper back together get her to tell you how you work together to fix what she feels is wrong.

Mary - posted on 08/12/2009

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There's definitely a bigger problem. Her actions are a manifestation of something she's dealing with (albeit, very aggravating). Is she having a jealousy problem with her siblings? Is she craving your attention, good or bad? Is she having a problem with some of her friends or have there been any recent changes in her life. Think about it, and try to spend some alone time with her and make her feel extra special, though she's not acting very loveable right now. You may be able to pick up on the problem.

Donna - posted on 08/11/2009

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I would also talk to her about whether something is bothering her. Let her know she can always talk to you when she is upset about something, and that destroying things is not how you handle these kinds of feelings in your house. Also let her know if she is bored come to you and you will find things for her to do. In our house, punishments are increased if lying is involved.

Holly - posted on 08/09/2009

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She rips paint off the walls and lies about it...tries to lie about her sister doing thing when she didnt do anything...she pretty much breaks everything she gets her hands on and says she did it cuz she was bored

H.J - posted on 08/09/2009

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Depends on what she is lying about and the situation... if you could give more details then I could help more

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