HOW DOES IT FEEL BEING A SINGLE MOM!!!!

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I have never heard anyone ask the question like that. Usually people just say "It must be hard to be a single mom!" But I always try to look on the bright side, because in the times that we live in I think that it is sometimes hard to be a parent regardless if you are alone or with a partner. For me, the greatest barrier has been the financial side of it. But, I quickly learned how to prioritize and I taught my children that our survival takes precedence over name brands and trinkets. When I can give them something I will, when I can't they can wait. I also taught them that having a single parent home does not limit their potential nor does it give them or anyone the right to tag them into the stereotypes of children who come from single parent homes. My children are loved, sheltered and all their basic needs are provided for and that is the most important things that any parent; single or not, must prioritize. It is also important to build a strong support system around you, mine has been my family. Do the best you can and have faith in yourself, be a role model for your child and never be too proud to turn to your support system when you feel alone.

Jayne - posted on 07/18/2009

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Being a single Mom for almost three years was one of the hardest things I have ever endured in my life, but it made me stronger and gave me a deep respect for all of those single mothers out there struggling every day of their life. It can be exhausting and sometimes depressing and lonely. BUT...you have your beautiful child...and on those days when you do not feel you can take one more step, just remember...your child is the one you are continuing for. Have pride in yourself! Give yourself a break and do something special for yourself (no matter how small).
Finally, and most importantly, God will see you through this! With much prayer, God continues to bless my daughter and I. He loves you and will do the same for you and your family. He has plans for your life! When you are clenching your fists in fear or frustration, open them up and receive God's blessing.
My best to you!

Maria - posted on 07/15/2009

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the hardest yet most rewarding thing i've ever done and am still doing. its made me a completely different, more sober, and concentrated person. I'm so thankful for my son. but i have my days when i ask why it couldn't be different, more help. less stress. but in the end...i have my son and he's so beautiful. there's no greater gift than a child. the rest are details...Goodluck girl, you'll be fine.

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Liz - posted on 07/17/2009

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Wow...I love being a Mother don't get me wrong!! and I love my 2 kids dearly..... but... I also work 2 jobs to survive ... and I wouldnt wish it on anyone ever!!!

Samantha - posted on 07/16/2009

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it is very hard. there are days when i want to break down and just give up. but then i look at my beautiful boy and realize that i have everything i could ever want. he is worth the hard work and the sleepless nights. i am the one who gets to put him to bed every night and kiss him and read him his books. he looks at me with love and adoration because i am the one who has been there and taken care of him. his father does not know what he is missing. i have anger towards him for tossing in the towel but i am also a stronger person because of it. in the end my goal is to raise a good boy with high morals and good decision making skills. if his father were still around i do not know if my "goal" for my son.

JEANNETTE - posted on 07/16/2009

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ALWAYS HAVE PRIDE IN YOURSELF. DONT LET ANYTHING OR ANYONE GET IN YOUR WAY. ALWAYS LOOK AT IT, THIS IS FOR MY FAMILY ESPECIALLY FOR MY SON, IT CAN BE VERY HARD. MY DAUGHTER'S DAD WAS NOT IN HER LIFE AFTER SHE TURNED 3YRS OLD. I DID IT ALL BY MYSELF AND ALSO WITH MY FAMILY SUPPORT. KEEP THAT IN MIND. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. WHY DONT YOU GO AND TRY TO LIVE WITH YOUR HUSBAND? DONT WORRY TOO MUCH LET GOD GUARD YOU IN ALL YOUR WAYS. YOU WILL BE BLESSED. GOOD LUCK

Rita - posted on 07/16/2009

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It is hard because that support system is not there but like the others say it is rewarding as well. We get all kudos for doing a good job!! :)

Meshell - posted on 07/15/2009

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Back when i was a single mom,i was in a homeless shelter with my child because i left an abusive relationship.it was lonely sometimes and hard,but i had a sense of pride and held my head up high most of the time because i knew i was accomplishing the most toughest job all on my own!there were hard times,little money, and i felt like daycare was raising my child sometimes.not to mention i've never gotten any child support from him ever! but its almost 9 years later,and i'm her best friend because of everything we've been through together,and i can tell her now not to take things for granted because things weren't this way before! she understands mommy has to work hard and nothing is handed to you.

Leah - posted on 07/15/2009

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It's hard, but u learn to do what u have to do! Every moment u think of them, having the what if questions, but that is when u truly learn to trust. Trust that they are being well taken care of when they are out of your site, trust in yourself also. You may doubt how you can do things, but always remember that the exspression "where there is a will there is a way" is definitely true!

Sharon - posted on 07/15/2009

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I was a single mom for years. It was the hardest thing I have ever been through and even so something I would never give up. I learned so much about myself and I believe it made me closer to my children. I know there is nothing I can't handle. It's frightening at times but you learn you have strength you never imagined. I believe single moms learn how to hold the whole world in a sippy cup.

Shelley - posted on 07/15/2009

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Although I am in a relationship now, I split up from my daughter's father when she was three and we were on our own for over 3 yrs. It was very hard because I had shared custody with her father and wanted to spend every minute with her, and the nights without her usually meant I cried myself to sleep.....even though her father was and still is very much a part of her life it was difficult having no one to help on those dificult days. It meant that I had to change my shifts to working nights for daycare purposes and to justify in my head that she wouldn't notice me gone as much if she was sleeping most of the time she was at the babysitters. It was really hard and still is. Although I have someone in my life now, I still share custody with her biological dad and we do a week on, a week off etc. Despite what people told me, she's 8 now and I still miss her every night she's at her dad's. But we built a bond through all that, she became my best friend.....I think and hope our bond will continue throughout the years ahead.

Leslee - posted on 07/15/2009

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It can be hard. My daughter's father has not been involved at all. She is 7 years old now. Although, for the past 5 years I have been in a relationship. Sometimes I miss it being just the 2 of us. Nobody to say it needs to be another way. You can raise your child just the way you want but at the same time you have nobody to talk to about what is going on with your children!

Brittany - posted on 07/15/2009

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my sons father left us when jase was a month and a half old. we have been on our on since then and he is 4 months old now. it can be lonely and hard sometimes but i think sometimes having jases dad not in the picture could be a good thing for him, in the long run.

KeeKee - posted on 07/15/2009

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Even though I'm married... I have been raising my son on my own since the day he was born because his dad is in Iraq. It is so hard to have a child and try to keep a job. Everyday is a struggle but I love my son and I do what it takes to make sure he is taken care of. He's almost 5 months old now.

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