How to end the night time pull up battle?

Tammy - posted on 01/28/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Emmaline will be 5 in March and I don't know what else to do. We've tried bribery, rewards, incentives, all types of things, I think?!?

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Krista - posted on 02/03/2009

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Hey tammy,

have you talked about the night terrors with Emmaline's DR. He may be able to help if that is the case. I guess if it were me I would just let her sleep. Then you wont have to lose your cool at night either. I don't know how your house is set up, but if her room is far away from the bathroom, you could try putting her potty chair in her room, or in the hall just outside her door. Maybe it wont seem so far to go......and maybe make her a little more independent with getting up to go. For a few days try not talking about her wet diaper at all. It sounds like she is getting a little down on herself because she doesn't understand why she can't wake up yet, or why she is wet.

You need to decide what is more important, her not having a wet diaper at night, or everyone getting a good night sleep. To me sleep is the best thing....but to each his own. Just make her go potty right before getting in to bed, and then first thing after she wakes up in the morning. If she is wet, just say it's okay honey we will see how tonight goes, and then move on. She will go when her body matures enough. My daughter wakes herself up to go, but she still has nights when she wets the bed......I don't get mad, cause she slept hard and didn't wake up, it wasn't her fault. And it'a not really Emmaline's fault either. But it will get better, Tell her it's okay and that you love her no matter what, and move on to breakfast.

This is just my opinion, but I don't think you were wrong to point out that she lied to you......you don't think lying is good any other time do you. And her running in to her room crying was her way of controling the situation. And getting you to feel sorry for her even though she new she did wrong. You have to point out to her though that it wasn't that she wet her diaper, but that she lied to get a treat.

Good luck

We are here for you......it will get better, and ask her doctor about the night Tremmors, he may be able to help.

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Kylee - posted on 02/07/2009

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my mum told me how she trained us as wee ones and i used it for my daughter and we never had any issues. if her bedtime was 7.30pm for example then from 4.30pm that afternoon no more drinks are allowed, you carry on as normal and at bedtime your daughter uses the toilet like a big girl and goes off to bed, just before you go to bed you take her back to the toilet ( no need to wake her, she will stir and you just explain mummy is taking you to the toilet ) after wards you place her into bed and when she wakes in the morning hopefully she would still be dry. if your daughter didn't won't to try this in underwear you could still use your pull ups and if she wakes up dry she might reliase by herself that now she is a big girl she dosen't need them. hope this helps :)

Tammy - posted on 01/29/2009

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Quoting Krista:

Is Emmaline using the potty during the day just fine? Because you may just have a heavy sleeper.


I should have also said that she has night terrors or so we think.  I think she has to go to the bathroom and that is what is bothering her.  When I get up to take her she totally freaks out and starts hitting or pushing me away and does not want me to touch her or use the toilet.  In the morning she doesn't recall it at all and It isn't like her to just be mean like that.  Although she does like her sleep and isn't a happy camper if she is woken from nap!  Do you think that I should leave her be or should I continue to try???  I just don't know what to do.  It's really hard to get up and not lose my cool in the middle of the night when I'm just trying to help her.  And it's really hard for me to see her heart sink in the morning because she peed in her diaper.  I told her she could have one m&m if she wakes up with a dry diaper but that only happened once.  The night after that the little stinker went and threw away her wet diaper put a dry one on and tried to trick me.  I gave her the M&M and then I noticed the wet diaper on the top of the garbage can.  She didn't even push it in so it was sitting there on top.  When I told her I knew what she did (and I said it very matter of factly very nice not in a disappointed fashion at all)  she ran into her room crying and I don't know if it was from embarrasement or hurt feelings.  Shouldn't I have let her know that I knew?  Am I scarring her?

Krista - posted on 01/28/2009

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Is Emmaline using the potty during the day just fine? Because you may just have a heavy sleeper. My best friend has two boys, 9 and 6 that still use pullups, cause they sleep VERY hard. The nine year old they even wake before they go to bed to make him potty and he still wakes up wet in the AM. Be glad she sleeps though the night, if you stop making a deal about it for a few weeks she may start doing it herself, anyway. Try just chalking this up as a fight not worth worrying about......keep using them tell there not wet several days in a row. And reuse the not wet ones, to save your self some money. Also it never hurts to keep some in the house for those times when your little one gets sick and can't get to the potty in time. That saves you more then anything. Good luck......soon enough she will be too big for you to snuggle, and you don't want this to be something you remember about her being small. Whatever you do, you are going great now, just keep moving forward and "this too shall pass."

your friend

krista

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My boys were harder to potty train then my girls! They seem to not catch on as quick or just dont care!! hahah I tried pull ups back when they were little (that was 21-19 years ago) however they didnt seem to care if pottied in them. Once I just left regular underwear on them they soon stopped. Theu didnt like the feeling of wetting bed or themselves. Let me know what happens...

Kori - posted on 01/28/2009

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Tammy - I understand you - I'm going thru the same thing, nut my son is 3 1/2. He does great during the day, but at night he sleeps right thru. But in the morning he is soooo disappointed. I have tried only giving him a small drink after supper, and of course going pee right before bed, but nothing seems to be working... SO FRUSTERATING!!!!!!!

Maria - posted on 01/28/2009

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Try just underwear let he feel how wet he will be when goes on himself or wake him up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom also go to the bathroom before bed. I don't know if you have done this already but I hope this will help.

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