How to manage everything on my plate?

Tahra - posted on 12/22/2008 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am married with two kids, a 2 year old girl and a 5 wk old boy. I go back to work right after New Year's. I'm a full time 8th grade teacher at a school for children with special needs. But come the end of January I will be starting classes again to get certified (taking 2 classes)...back to college :(. Up until having my son, I have always been very particular about details (my daugther, my husband, cleaning, grocery shopping, work, etc) But I'm still trying to get the hang of even getting out of the house with TWO kids. I'm scared of how things will be when I return to work full time, being a mother of 2 and taking classes. My husband is wonderful and helps when he can. He is also a middle school teacher, but a musician as well and that can consume his time.

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Tahra - posted on 12/25/2008

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Thank you for the comments, I too am a little OCD...well alot. I think giving up on how I like certain things to get done will be a challenge, but my kids come first, so I will just have to get used to it :) I do love the suggestion on picking one day out of the week for a heavy duty house re-organization day/cleaning, verses how I try to do that everyday, lol. Hopefully with alot of prayer and support I will get through these next 6 months. Thank God teachers have the summers off :)

Sia - posted on 12/25/2008

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I teach and our next baby is due in Feb. Pray for strength and then get organized. As a teacher you know that "plans" always get rearranged when dealing with kids so you already have what you need to be a successful wife mother and teacher. You really have to give up things. I used to love doing the laundry and folding up the clothes perfectly...when my hubby took that over I used to go back and refold stuff. Then I realized that as long as the clothes were clean and I could find them, they didn't have to be folded perfectly. I'm a little OCD about certain things, but I am learning to let go and do a little bit at a time. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE PERFECT. Whatever you do please take time out for yourself...you need your sanity! Good Luck with everything.

Vieve - posted on 12/24/2008

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You are an amazing woman to take on so much and want to do it so well. I agree with Jeanne in that you will have to let go of some things. It is IMPOSSIBLE to do it all. Prioritize and lower your standards--just a little and know it won't be forever. To me, the most important thing in life is relationships and not how clean my house is or how many days a week I work out. The time we have with our children when they are under our roof is is precious. Enjoy every moment. Good luck to you :).

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Five years ago when I left the father of my children my son had just turned 3, my daughter was only 3 months old and still nursing. I had transferred to a university 2.5 hours away from my family. I had to do it on my own, and that meant that I needed to be more organizaed to get everything done. Choose one day a week that is set aside for a thourough cleaning of the house, clothes, linens, etc. Organize all of you paperwork so that you can easily access your financial and billing information. Get one of those "Mom" calendars (wall hanging). Staying organizaed will help take soem of the stress out of your day. Plan a family outting day where you go to a playground, sledding (if you have snow where you live), this will help you and your family reconnect after a long week. Ask your husband to identify the things he can get done while he's out of the house. Know your schedules and plan some quiet time for yourself and your husband so that you can both de-stress without haveing to worry about who is caring for the children. Talk to your supervisor at work about what you will do in the even of a family emergency. Ask what your options are for bringing in a substitute teacher to cover for you in emergency.



Always remember, YOU CAN DO THIS!

Jeanne - posted on 12/23/2008

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My two are now 6 and 8... I feel for you! The answer is that you have to let go of some things. Together with your husband, decide what your top life priorities are so you can compare what you currently do against them, to see what can bend. Perhaps you can hire a cleaning service. Perhaps you can have groceries delivered. Maybe you can freeze more meals ahead of time. Perhaps you always fold the towels because you want them placed a certain way, but the way your husband does it will be good enough. Don't try to do it *all* or you'll burn out; your family needs you too much to let that happen. Realize this is just one stage in your life and it'll pass.

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