I am having trouble with my 18 month old baby girl, she will not sleep in her own bed, she will only settle in my bed, has anyone got any good advice for me

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Quoting Kim:

Hi Sarah,

When I had this problem, I read an article that was very helpful. In it, it suggested you don't allow your child to get into your bed. You begin by telling him/her that it is time they sleep in their own bed. The first night you go in the room and lay in bed with your child till they fall asleep. When she is feeling comfortable with that, you sit on the side of the bed, possibly rubbing her back until she falls asleep. Then change to where you sit in a chair next to the bed. Then move the chair closer to the door. Then sit just outside her door so she knows you are there. You get the idea. . .it's a gradual process of easing her into bedtime by herself in her own bed and room. Also creating a bedtime routine can be quite helpful that is constant every night. Maybe a bath and a book.

Hope this helps,
Kim Olver
http://www.empowermentparenting.com


I have heard that this also works well. I would say try both methods. For me, I tried the scooting away thing and it didnt really work well. If they could see me than they wanted me and that was that. lol

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My oldest daughter had that same problem. The best thing to do, it worked for me anyways, is set aside a few nights a week and place her in her own bed. If she cries and screams try your best to ignore it (unless it is too much for you to bear or if you think she is hurting). It may be hard at first but she will eventually fall asleep. Each night do this for several nights and by the third night you should be sleeping alone again. It worked wonders for my little one and I did it with my second right off the bat and never had a problem once. They are 5 and 3 now and rarely ever sleep with me (unless they are sick or something like that).



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Sarah - posted on 03/12/2009

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I have been having this problem with my son. He just turned one and has been sleeping atleast a part of the night with me since he had a bad cold. I can't let him cry it out because his crib is still in the bedroom. Any helpful hints.

Tracey - posted on 03/12/2009

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Hi Sarah, my son was like this until he was 4!!!!!!!!!!!!  After trying all the techniques books and doctors were telling me (Which didnt work ) I made him a sticker chart and after 10 nights of sleeping in his own bed I then gave him a couple of dollars to go buy something he really wanted.  I then slowly weaned him off the chart until he was staying in his own bed by himself (Thank goodness).  Not sure if this will work for your daughter as she may be a little young to understand this concept but good luck.



Tracey

Kim - posted on 03/11/2009

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Hi Sarah,



When I had this problem, I read an article that was very helpful. In it, it suggested you don't allow your child to get into your bed. You begin by telling him/her that it is time they sleep in their own bed. The first night you go in the room and lay in bed with your child till they fall asleep. When she is feeling comfortable with that, you sit on the side of the bed, possibly rubbing her back until she falls asleep. Then change to where you sit in a chair next to the bed. Then move the chair closer to the door. Then sit just outside her door so she knows you are there. You get the idea. . .it's a gradual process of easing her into bedtime by herself in her own bed and room. Also creating a bedtime routine can be quite helpful that is constant every night. Maybe a bath and a book.



Hope this helps,

Kim Olver

http://www.empowermentparenting.com

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