I can not get my 2 yr old to stop biting.

Brigette - posted on 07/02/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I think I have read every article on this. The negative and positive reinforcement. Giving the victim the attn, the time outs and talking to her. Nothing seems to be helping. She's been kicked out of 2, almost 3 daycares now and is about to start at a new one. I need ideas!

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Jennifer - posted on 07/04/2009

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I was a biter and my father had to bite me to get me to stop. I think once I understood what it felt like, it stopped. However, an idea below which indicated the soap idea and the rules, that could work. Sometimes it takes creative ideas to get in their specific head to get them to stop.

Joyce - posted on 07/02/2009

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My child was biting at daycare for attention. The director came up with the solution that worked for her. They added another snack to the day. When she would bite a child she would have to give the child a "soft touch" and hold ice on the bite mark. Both teachers would spend a few minutes a day with her, giving her one on one attention. After 2 days of this she never bit again.

Lacy - posted on 07/02/2009

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As much as I hated it, and tried doing everything I could to avoid it, I ended up biting my son back one day. Just once, but it was hard enough to leave a mark (next to the ones from other kids....) I cried to my mom afterward about what a horrible mother I was and she said "We bit you too, and you stopped. Do you even remember it? You're fine!" That didn't help me feel better at all. I'm one of these young parents who is trying the problem solving, and explaining and positive reinforcement type things, but none of that worked for biting, nor is it working for my current situation. However, after that one time I bit him he looked at me like I was crazy and said "Ouch mommy, that hurts!" and guess what, no more biting. If I saw him trying again I'd remind him how much it hurt and how we don't want to hurt people we care about and he would look down at his arm and not bite! Good luck!

Shawna - posted on 07/02/2009

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My son was a huge biter from one year old until he was 3 years old. We took him to see a psychologist at the request of our daycare and he said that it was completely normal for these ages. He basically grew out of it but we did make him bite a bar of soap when he bit someone and made a book of what was okay to bite (food) and what was not okay (friends, family, etc). It is really, really hard to go through this! Hang in there and I hope you can find a daycare that will work with you and not kick you out. Good luck!

Pamela - posted on 07/02/2009

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I had the same problem with my daughter. I hate to say it, but the only way that I got her to stop biting was to bite her the way she was biting others. It just about killed me but it worked. The first time. It's a very unpopular solution these days but most kids are very compassionate and once they understand how their behavior effects others, they will adjust.

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