I don't know what to do?

Helen - posted on 01/19/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I'm deciding at the minute whether to stay at home or go back to work... I'd like to stay at home with my daughter (who is 4 months) and look after her but i don't know whether i would be able to cope financially... i don't have to go back till may so i have a few months to decide.. any advice??



Thanks in advance Helen xx

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Kelly - posted on 01/25/2009

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Hello Helen,



I was the same as you, when Alfie was born i always thought i am going to stay at home and look after him myself, but i could not do this due to finacial strain, it is hard i will be honest and i did not want to work again i emjoyed being with alfie, but now i am working part time in a hotel on reception and really enjoying it, alfie goes to nursery and its the best thing i have done for HIM, not me more for him, he can paly and learn with other children and my job gives me time away too. maybe you should think about that too, its hard but worth it too. x x

User - posted on 01/25/2009

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There are options, depends on where you work and how flexible they are. Such as part time, job share, changing hours to do some work from home/after hours so someone else can stay home with bub (could cut child care costs) and so on. If you gotta, you gotta, it's great to get that adult stimulation but not for quite as long. The best of both worlds if you can get it!



I was lucky I could go back to work casually, so I was the stay-at-home mum and worked night shift whilst she slept around 2-3 times a week. Each working night I'd sleep during the day when she did (fortunately she was a GREAT sleeper) so it allowed me to earn money without compromising being an at-home mum. Of course this became more difficult down the track, but could be a good starting point?

Jeanette - posted on 01/24/2009

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Hi! My first baby was only 3months old when i went back to work it was the hardest thing for me to do all i wanted to do was spend all of my time with her. But we have the same problem that you have we needed it financially too! My haredest part was i wrked 2nd shift! I think it wld be easyer on you if you worked first that way you'll be home with her in the evenings. I was so glad when i got first shift job! So much easier! Hope i helped some! Good luck!!

Jennifer - posted on 01/23/2009

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Maybe you could look into going back part-time? After my second child was born, (just recently) I decided to not go back to my full-time job, but keep my part-time job. (It offered much more flexible hours)

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