I’m feeling like a slave in my own home

Martha - posted on 02/13/2018 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My husband and I work together, own our own business. We both put in about 40 hours per week. We have six children (three his, three mine). All the kids are great! We have four in the Home. I come home after work, go to the grocery store, prepare dinner, clean up the kitchen, check laundry. On the weekends, it’s all me, I clean, do laundry, clean again, cook.. I’m tired, I’m constantly yelling at the kids to help, they don’t clean their room, it’s a constant fight for laundry to get done. My husband is wonderful but I feel like he doesn’t have my back with the chores and the kids. I’m thinking about going to counseling because I feel I’m not doing it right. HELP!

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Michelle - posted on 03/02/2018

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The children can do their own laundry and if they don't, they won't have clean clothes. My children have been doing their own for years, sometimes they need reminding to do it but I won't do it.
You and your husband need to sit down and work things out. You need to tell him that you can't do it all on your own and since you are both working the same hours outside the home, you both should be doing equal amounts of housework.
Draw up a chore roster for the children and have consequences if things aren't done. Take away technology or just unplug the WiFi.

Jo - posted on 02/20/2018

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Can I ask why you haven't talked about this as family? The kids are old enough, I'm sure, to participate in chores. Assign chores, have them take a chore card out of a jar, let them pick, whatever you decide but the idea is that they do the chores or lose their electronics or can't go to activities. Also, your husband....you haven't mentioned how well you are communicating you're needs to him. You NEED help and feel overwhelmed. Ask him to jump in. Praying that the family meeting goes well and that they all step up!

Blessings to you and yours!

Janet - posted on 02/14/2018

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So sorry you are feeling so much stress over trying to keep up with everything. Sounds like you and hubby need to sit down and have a talk about how you are going to get some help with everything at home. And both of you together come up with a schedule for the kids to help. A united force works better in holding the kids to their part in helping. If hubby doesn't want to help maybe it's time to hire some help. Hoping you can successfully work things out that helps relieve some of your stress.

Ev - posted on 02/13/2018

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Actually, you and your husband should have sat down in the beginning and figured out the rules, chores and so on and set up a system for the kids to follow as to what chores each had, when they did the chores, what was expected of them, and so forth. Then you would not be the only one doing everything! It is not too late to call a family meeting and set up something with the kids to do their share. If not that then stop doing all their laundry especially if they are old enough to do it themselves, let the dishes slide a few days, let the house get a little cluttered. Let them see just how much it is you do. And when they ask for clean clothes or meals---tell them you are not their maid.

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