I start hyperventilating just thinking about going back to work next week, how did you guys do it?

CoreyAnn - posted on 04/13/2009 ( 31 moms have responded )

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I start hyperventilating just thinking about going back to work next week, how did you guys do it?

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I returned to work after 10 months at home looking after my 11 month old daughter. We started her in fulltime childcare (childminders) three weeks before I returned to work so I had got used to it emotionally by the time I returned to work. I admit I love being at work again - even fulltime. But it really helps knowing my little one is enjoying being with her childminders and that she is, in fact, thriving.

As to the practicalities, I have become hyper-organised. I get my clothes and her clothes as well as her bag ready the night before; I menu-plan and shop for the whole week during the weekends; we do the bulk of our shopping online with deliveries on Saturdays, laundry is done first thing in the morning - I put the load on then go to work and my husband puts it in the dryer before he drops baby off at daycare, vacuuming and dusting and cleaning has been reduced to an hour between my husband and me on Saturday mornings so the rest of the weekend is free for our baby...

Katie - posted on 05/11/2009

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Try working from home, I do and I love it! I get to stay home with my little girl! Check out my website www.sockatie.com and see if it's something that would interest you!

Katie Smith
sockatiesmith@yahoo.com

Becky - posted on 05/06/2009

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Its not easy. I called my sister very often and cried every time I pumped (I was still breastfeeding). It gets easier but my son is going to be two next month and it is still hard to leave him.

Mashira - posted on 05/06/2009

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I am goin through the same thing. I went to the office to take my paper from the OB saying it was ok for me to return and I broke down crying in front of the human resource lady. She felt so bad for me and is giving me an extra few days to get it together. IT'S SOOOO HARD!!!!!!!!!!!!! :(

Ava - posted on 05/05/2009

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Quoting Kristen:

Well, this will be a different answer! I had horrible PPD and was suicidal for a long time....I wanted nothing more than to go to work.


Kristen, I can relate.  I also had bad PPD, and I felt much worse being at home feeling inadequate as a mother than I felt leaving her with someone I trusted who could care for her and give me a bit of the break I needed.

Karen - posted on 05/04/2009

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its really hard you just got to remember why your going back !
and it gets easier with time....

Kristy - posted on 04/30/2009

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It killed me to go back to work so I looked for something that I could do from home and I found an awesome company that has been around for 24 years and is wonderful to work for from home. I can show you how I did it. it is easy and fun. I even work while I nurse my daughter. What job can you do that at? Kristy

CoreyAnn - posted on 04/25/2009

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Thank you guys sooo much for all your advice. However two days before I was about to go back to work, my mother who was going to watch my baby threw her back out and that meant I couldn't go back to work. I'm now a stay home mommy, I guess things just happen for a reason. Again thank you for all the messages, I will use the advice when I do eventually go back to work, thanks again!

User - posted on 04/25/2009

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I cried on my way to work the first day. It is hard, but it got easier really quickly. Once you see how much fun your child is having then it is no problem. My daughter looks forward to going now. Once you reach that point, you won't worry about it anymore. Daycare is not a punishment to kids, they get to play with others, do fun arts and crafts and play outside. If you were home working, you probably wouldn't be able to do all of those things everyday. My daughter loves to show me what she made when she gets home. Just remember you are doing what is best for your child and there is no shame in being a working mom.

Lynette - posted on 04/24/2009

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I have to agree when i went back to work it was terrable. I was the one on the door step crying and not the kids. They where like have a nice day mommy. I said you all have a good day and i will see you again in a few hours. When I was at work it went so fast I didn't have time to think.

Lucky my husband is at home looking after my youngest and my oldest goes to school. Thing is once my hubbie gets a job she will have to go to a childminder. but not to worry we have a good one in mind.

Just think it will benefit your child in the long run. Your child will get to meet other children and other adults, build up ther self esteem, confidence and give them a chance to explore the world with others. Great way of preparing them for school. Gives them a routine. I'm not saying that your child wont cling or cry when you leave them, but it does get easier.

Kristine - posted on 04/24/2009

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The first few days are hard so don't start back on a Monday if possible. It will make for a really long week. I went back on a Thursday which helped ease the transition and gave me two days to figure out where I had left things before my maternity leave.

User - posted on 04/24/2009

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i need a job from home, free with no start up fees. Just to work and that is it LOl i need the the money asap!~ thanks all email rajinandbobby@hotmail.com

Tara - posted on 04/24/2009

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I worked with my employer and I was able to return to work part-time for two weeks. It got me used to waking up in the morning, taking care of my daughter and getting ready for work. My first full day was hard (it's ok to cry) but eventually it gets a little easier. Now the best part of my day is seeing her when I get home!

Catherine - posted on 04/24/2009

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I eased my way back to work. After 5 mo at home i went back to work 2 days the first year, 3days the 2nd year etc...

Tamra - posted on 04/24/2009

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What has help is that I left my baby with hubby, BUT that did not stop me from crying whenever I left her. I am here to tell you that it does get better.

Tabitha - posted on 04/23/2009

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I was fortunate. My husband and I rotated shifts so one of us was always there for the kids. It is difficult to leave them but just assure yourself (and take the necessary steps to check out your sitter) that they will be just fine. It is necessary for them to have interactions other than with mommy and daddy or they will have difficulty dealing in social situations. Personal experience lesson learned with my oldest. She was 3 the first time she went to an actual sitter. Hardest day of my life but necessary for the social interaction and my husband and I both worked the same or overlapping shifts. It will get easier. Just show them all the love you can when your with them and they will know that you'll always be there.

Mariela - posted on 04/23/2009

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Hi Corey Ann...I know the feeling...I just couldn't do it...I was about to take a teaching job when I stubled upon a work at home opportunuty...i had looked at so many, that was tired of being scamed, but this one truly was real! I have a home-based business now with AmeriPlan and love it! I decided to do this for me and my kids and are now making an income from home, while staying with my daughter Sienna...my son is already in pre-k, but I take him to school and pick him up, go to field trips and take him to soccer, I never miss any of his important events, which is why i love this so much.

If your interested, you can look at my website for all the info:

www.freedomathometeam.com/marielastewart

I know it seems like a tough choice, but it doesn't have to be...i am blessed to have found this amazing opportunity...and try to help other moms as well to find that same freedom to enjoy what matters most to them. Have a great evening! Mariela

Lori - posted on 04/22/2009

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That would be really hard! Have you considered working from home?

Lori Smith

Julie - posted on 04/22/2009

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The first day was the most difficult for me and I cried the whole day. I kept telling myself that in order for my son to have what he needs (including our medical insurance), I have to go back... I have to go back. That, in addition to finding a daycare provider that you can really trust and confide in, will make the transition easier. For example, I shared my anxieties about leaving my son with my daycare provider and for the first week, and then occasionally after, she text's me videos of him so I get them during lunch... it's so sweet!

Good luck!!

Cathy - posted on 04/22/2009

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I cried for three days straight - luckily, my boss was a recent dad and understood. But not to worry...you will adapt...and even be thankful for the reprieve every now and then when you have a day off (I know that seems hard to believe now, but you will!) I also agree that it is very good for children to be around others away from their parents. It did a world of good for my daughter who tended to be a little clingy - now she is very comfortable with others.

Kristen - posted on 04/20/2009

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Well, this will be a different answer! I had horrible PPD and was suicidal for a long time....I wanted nothing more than to go to work.

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I went back to work after 6 weeks off. I'm the breadwinner, so we needed the income. That helped. As long as you have a good babysitter or daycare, your kid and you will be more than fine. I'm the type of person that needs to be productive so I wouldn't be happy tied down to the house. If you are the type of person that needs to stay home with the kids and can't be happy otherwise, then find a way to make it happen. Find a job that lets you work from home or has a flexible schedule. Arrange your bills/budget and your spouse's income to where you can afford to stay home. Make it happen. If it's not possible or you need to be out there working, just find a babysitter/daycare you trust and make the most of your weekends and evenings. Knowing you need to be at work for your bills or for your self will be plenty of comfort and you'll adjust.

Marlene - posted on 04/15/2009

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Be prepared - when you can cook double portions of meals and freeze the extras.  Having some prepared meals in the freezer makes the evenings ALOT easier.  I also did any house cleaning that I knew I wouldn't do for a long time once life got crazy (i.e. working full time).  Being prepared and keeping busy helped me to cope.

Devonna - posted on 04/15/2009

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With my son, I cried everyday.  It was easier with my daughter, because I was able to take her to work for the first couple of months.  We actual had an extra desk that she slept on, lol.  The big thing is to have people you truse to watch your baby.  You need to also realize that what you are doing is what is best for you and her.  Guilt and crying will be normal and it is OK.  It'll get easier.  Good Luck to you

Rachel - posted on 04/14/2009

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It was so hard. I cried the whole way to my sister's house. Then the whole way to work. But my babysitter is my sister so it made it so much better. Each day got easier and you learn how to cope as time goes on. You learn how to make the most of the time you have in the morning and onc eyou pick them up

Emily - posted on 04/14/2009

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You just do what you have to do. Can you afford to live without your income? If so you might want to take some time off. If not you really don't have a choice. Just remember it gets easier every week.

Candace - posted on 04/14/2009

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I know how you feel. Lots of tears that last week. But I took one day aside and planned it out for just me and my baby. I took him on a long stroller ride through the park, napped beside him, took lots of pictures that day and just gave ALL of my attention to him. It was a nice day to hold on to for weeks to come. I also developed those pictures and took them with me the first month. It helped me feel better to have a part of him with me at ALL times. I still feel guilty being away from him  (5 years later) but I feel good knowing that I am providing for him.

LeeAnna - posted on 04/13/2009

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I knew I had to go to work but that did not make it easier. I cried all day the first day but it got easier the second. Don't get me wrong I still feel a little guilty still and she is now almost 2 but it one of the things I needed to do. Good Luck to you.

Brandy - posted on 04/13/2009

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I lucked out that my babysitter is the best ever and I have no worries. She does so muh for my kids and loves them as if they are her own, she goes over and above being just a babysitter. It is to the  point that we are really good friends now.I still miss them like crazy, but to me it is my way of having adult talk. I see a big difference in them as soon as they start going to a babysitter and think it is good for them to be around other kids and they they do not cling on me and going out is easy.

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