i will have to start going to work after my son is born will have to resort to day care when should i put him in?

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i want to be able to stay at home with christopher as long as possible but ill also have to work to help support our family. when would it be best for him to start daycare?

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Lisa - posted on 02/12/2009

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I did a lot of research with my daughter who is now 3.5 yrs. old.  I kept her at home (in-home nanny / babysitters) for her first two years.  I also nursed her that entire time going home for lunch for the first year.  I took 3 months off from work initially.  They say this gives children the bonding time they need with their mothers.  Burton White who is a renowned child development specialist has a great book First Three Years Of Life, I highly recommend it.  He talks a lot about this! 

Michelle - posted on 02/10/2009

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great suggestions, I forgot about the checklist/questions, definitely print those and interview lots of them and go with your instincts, you will know (intuition)

Michelle - posted on 02/10/2009

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as hard as it will likely be, put him in as soon as you can. We started at 10 weeks old (only because the waiting list or it would have been 8 weeks). I also took him in 3=4x before i went back to work and just talked with his teachers and observed. It was extremely hard for me at first, I hated leaving him with strangers and cried off and on after walking out, but it is one of the BEST decisions we have made. He loves it there and occassionally gets sick but nothing major. It makes our time with him after work even more special and the weekends. It will help with social skills too, and the longer you wait, I have heard the harder the transition will be for him.

Kim - posted on 02/10/2009

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Stephanie - posted on 02/10/2009

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Carmella - posted on 02/10/2009

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I am a huge believer in FAMILY or HOME Daycare for young children.  While I like daycare centers once a child has gotten into the 2s and 3s.  As to when you start daycare, I would wait as long as you can, but know your financial limits too.



The biggest thing is finding someone you are comfortable with.  They will make it so much easier to go back to work.  Ask other mothers you know.  Ask families in your neighborhood.  MEET as many daycare providers as you can before choosing one, but also trust your instincts on who you are comfortable with.

Yamuna - posted on 02/10/2009

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My son Maximilian started day care around 4.5 months old. Some day cares will take younger babies. He did get sick and picked up all kinds of stuff but I was prepared for that and believe in the long term it has strengthened his immune system. I think day care or nursery is a great place for kids, especially if they have no siblings as yet to learn to interact and share and they pick up social skills etc. The guilt, functioning with little to no sleep as a Mum is hard but you will get into a routine and kids thrive on that.

Kim - posted on 02/10/2009

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Although I was allowed 12 weeks unpaid leave, I was in between jobs and actually got 4 months with my daughter until I had to go to work.  Infant care is the most expensive and the most sought after...get on a waiting list immediately.  Interview several daycares and get recommendations from friends or family.  I am a Christian but don't think that a daycare that is run from a church is any better or worse than any other daycare...bad care can happen anywhere and any daycare you use needs to be licensed.  Most community programs have daycare referral services...you can contact them and they can give you lists of daycares to start with.  I love my daycare!!!  I actually had home care worked out for my daughter, but at the last minute her caregiver decided to quit!  I thought I was going to lose it!  She was the only reason I felt OK about leaving my baby.  But another friend informed me that she worked at a small daycare, and why not interview there.  I did and instantly felt comfortable...and I thought of EVERY question to ask...you can find a list of great questions for daycares online.  The infant teacher was warm and clearly addressed my daughter and seemed to enjoy interacting with her right away.  They have absolutely no problem with pop-ins, and my mother is allowed to hang out there and help in my daughter's room any time she wants.  My biggest piece of advice is to work very hard to become friends/friendly with your child's primary caregiver...it gives you an inside track to daycare info and also makes your caregiver have a bigger investment in your child...if they like you, that usually spills over to your child.  Good luck and good daycare is definitely out there!!!

Stephanie - posted on 02/09/2009

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I waited until my son was about 5 months.  I was completely terrified since I thought that was so young, but it ended up being ok. It gets a lot easier with time because now I can tell he likes being there.

Jen - posted on 02/09/2009

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Most day cares take infants as young as 6 weeks. My daughter started the day she turned 4 months old. I wasn't sure of starting her so young, but it has actually turned out really well. I think that was a good wait period because I was able to be home with her for 4 months and I continued to nurse her for another 2 months afterwards before my supply decreased and she gave up trying. Like the other moms have said, look around, take tours, and get on waiting lists if needed.

Betsy - posted on 02/09/2009

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My dght will be starting at 11 weeks. I have to go back to work after 6 weeks (due to my not being at my job for more than a year as MN state law states) so my hubby will be staying home with her for the next 6 weeks. We started looking at daycares in our first trimester because of the waiting lists. I'm glad we looked at more than one daycare. You might want to do a search for questions to ask at a daycare before you go to visit it. As a first time mom I had a hard time trying to figure out what kind of questions would be good to ask. As noted by others, I would definitely stear clear of daycares that don't want you to stop by whenever you feel like it. That to me means they are hiding something...

Nikki - posted on 02/09/2009

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I stayed home for 2 years with my oldest child and my youngest started daycare at 6 weeks - so I have had both experiences.  My boys are 7 and 3 now.  Both are happy and well adjusted.  I was worried about my little one getting sick a lot etc but at 3 1/2 he has only been on antibiotics twice in his life (and one of the times is right now).  I actually found a home daycare and absolutely love her and so does my 3 year old.  I know you have to be careful about finding a safe environment but use your instincts.  If it doesn't feel right find another daycare.  Whatever you do, you will feel guilty - welcome to motherhood but just love your kids and do the best you can; everything else will work out!  Good luck and congrats!

Melissa - posted on 02/09/2009

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My dght started at 11 weeks and my son at 16 weeks (I was between jobs then), both have done great.  It was hard with my daughter at first (the oldest), but I was so pleased with the school it was much easier with my son.  As much as I hated having to do the daycare thing in the beginning I now see the benefits and am very pleased with how advanced my kids are and their social skills.  A piece of advice, LOOK NOW and get on a waitting list.  Infant care is hard to find and the good schools fill up fast!!!

Pam - posted on 02/09/2009

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Both of my children started daycare at 8 weeks (max maternity time I was permitted).  I was fortunate to have a good friend recommend an excellent daycare and we have been very happy.  As has been mentioned - most daycares have waiting lists - some very long!  I would definately get on a list as soon as possible.  Ask friends and family members for recommendations.  And remember that any good daycare should not have a problem with you dropping in ANY time.  If they do - something is wrong...  Good luck!!

Kristen - posted on 02/09/2009

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I personally don't believe I could put mine in daycare until he could talk and at least tell me if someone was mistreating him. I am very fortunate to have family that can watch my little one while I work. I would try asking other moms that you know and trust about their daycares. You could even try a church-based one if you are religious. I would choose one that has a high number of qualified workers as well.

Erin - posted on 02/09/2009

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I have two boys, ages 8 and 4. I went back to work when they both were 8 weeks. They started daycare then. It was a hard transition for me at first, but it was great. Both of my boys were healthy and never had any of the "sickness" that you always hear about. I have felt bad in the past for working full time and not being at home with my kids. It really paid off when my oldest started school. He learned so much more at daycare then I could have ever taught him at home. But, to answer your question, I would put him in as soon as you can. Most good daycares have a waiting list, and the older they are the hard it is to get in. Good luck!

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