I work 55+ hours a week with a child and husband! HELP!!!

Stephanie - posted on 03/28/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




i work nights managing a restaurant 55+ hours a week , my shifts are like 330p to 2 am. I never want to get up in the morning obviously. And when i do get up i am to tired to do anything with my son who is 2 1/2. I dont see him my husband family or friends much at all. I think about quitting my job at least twice a week due to lack of sleep and family time. But i am the provider at the moment so it really is not an option. If anyone has advice on what i could do please help!!!!


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Becky - posted on 03/30/2011




If you are the sole provider of the house you have the comfert of your other taking care of your child. At least that is a little up side. Just remember that you shouldn't quit untill you have found something else. Look for a job that you might like then apply if you think about quitting twice a week you need to change something. Also consiter that you should be happy too. Your happiness is important even though you have alot of responsability.

Amy - posted on 03/28/2011




I can't help you because your situation sounds very similar to mine. I work about 45 hours a week, with at least an hour commute each way too and from work. I work retail so my schedule is all over the place some days I go in early some days it's late. My husband on the other hand works a shift very similar to yours. He doesn't get home from work till 3 am, and he has to care for the kids during the day while I work. Needless to say we don't see each other very much, I'm the manager so I try to schedule one day off that coincides with his so we can do stuff together as a family. Does your husband work? If he's not working you should set your alarm for like 10 am and that will give you time to spend with your son before you go back into work.
We have a 5 year old and a one year old, my son is pretty self sufficient in the morning and usually plays computer games till his dad gets up with the baby. I honestly don't know how he does it but I know the days I work late he sleeps in to try and catch up on his sleep. I can't tell you the last time I saw my friends since most of them work retail too. Both my husband and I have to work, we work the schedules that we do so we don't have to do daycare because it's not an expense we want to take on. Like Rhain said it doesn't hurt to look for another job if you are so miserable, you could even try and find another manager position in a restaurant that will have greater flexibility with the hours you would be required to work.

Rhiain - posted on 03/28/2011




It's not easy, being the provider and the mom. Have you started job searching? It can't hurt to look and see what's out there. Clearly this quality of life isn't going to work for you, so it has to change. Can you alter your shifts at all or do you have skills that can apply to a 9-5 role? There are lots to consider, but for now just take one day at a time. Things will eventually fall into place.

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