Infants at Daycare

Lucretia - posted on 04/21/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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I have a 4 month old baby who just started daycare as I had to return to work (sigh!). It's a great daycare and they take really good care of her, but she is always one of the first babies to arrive and the last one to leave. I'm worried it's too much. How many hours do your babies spend at daycare?

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My daughter spends 10 1/2 hours a day five days per week. I think it has really helped her social skills especially when she's around other children that are not in daycare. You can see the difference.

Raven - posted on 04/26/2009

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My first son went 10 hours a day 4 days a week. he cried every am when I left him and cried every afternoon wanting to stay longer. Go figure. I have a 6wk old who starts tomorrow he will be going the as son. The great thing is that my daycare is across the road from my work.

Marlishia - posted on 04/25/2009

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That is me still. I am usually the one to take her and pick her up. My daughter is 25 months old and I was told that you should not keep her in daycare longer that 10 hours a day.

Tabitha - posted on 04/24/2009

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I also agree with Emily. Don't worry about the amount of time she spends at daycare as long as she knows that when she really needs you you'll be there for her. Show her all the love and attention you can when your together and she'll be fine.

Gabrielle - posted on 04/23/2009

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My daughter started daycare at 3 months when I went back to work. At that time, I dropped her off close to 7:15 and DH picked her up before 5. Now we're on slightly different schedules, so while she still gets dropped off at 7:15, he can pick her up around 3:30. Sometimes she was the first one there, as a baby, but these days, when I drop her off the morning 2-3yo gathering room, there are at least a dozen kids there already. We found that as long as she was well cared for and stimulated, with good fod and good naps and fun learning, she was happy. She's excited to go in the mornings and happy to see us in the afternoon.

Stephanie - posted on 04/23/2009

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Some days its almost 9 hrs and others it's only 5 (since I'm in school). I felt horrible this year knowing that he'd be there for 9 hrs some day. After awhile it got easier because he has fun. He gets his nap, snacks, lunch, they do little art projects (he's 21 mo). He likes it.

Rochell - posted on 04/22/2009

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My son started going to daycare @ two months old, he is seven months now. His dad drops him off at 7:30 and I pick him up at 4 (at 5 starting in May). It does seem like a long day, but they basically do everything at daycare that they would at home. The best part of my day is knowing he's having fun & being cared for AND he is super excited when I arrive. It is ok for a baby as long as it's a loving, safe and fun environment. Your child will let you know (even if they can't talk yet) how their day went. Good Luck!

Jen - posted on 04/22/2009

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My daughter started when she was 4 months old. She was usually either the 2nd baby or the 2nd to last (the most they had at a time was 6 babies) to arrive and usually the first picked up. So she was there for about 7 hours a day. Now she's 16 months old and she's one of the last to arrive (I don't drop her off until 9) and then the first to leave if her grandparents pick her up or sometimes she's the 2nd to last to leave when I get her. So she now spends 7.5-8.5 hours at day care. I wouldn't say that that's too much because we still have plenty of time to play with her after day care because she doesn't go to bed until 9. I love that she can spend all day with other children instead of alone with mommy and daddy all day.

Esther - posted on 04/22/2009

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I agree with Emily. Her response was much more productive than mine. She's right - you do what you have to do and if your baby seems OK, don't worry about her being first or last. It's irrelevant. Your baby is fine & you are taking care of her the best you can. That makes you a good mom.

Emily - posted on 04/22/2009

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You have to do what you have to do! If she is well-cared for and developing a bond with her provider I wouldn't worry about it. I know it might make you sad and feel like you are a bad mom but you aren't. I am sure you are working so that she can have a roof over her head and an easier time affording a college education- so you are doing this for her! Even if she is the first to arrive and the last to leave it could only be by 10 minutes so perhaps she is only at 20 minutes longer per day than some of the other babies. I wouldn't worry about it. Just make sure that since you aren't getting quantity time wither you are getting quality time when the two of you are home together.

Antonia - posted on 04/22/2009

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send him to kindy with dinner so that if you are late, he can still be fed on time and it hopefully wont muck him up too much

Esther - posted on 04/22/2009

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When my husband is away on business, I drop my son off at 7 AM and pick him up at 5:30 PM. When my husband is home (which is most of the time) he drops him off at around 7:45 AM and we still pick him up at 5:30 PM. The earlier time doesn't seem to affect him much, but picking him up later (which has only happened on a handful of occassions where I have gotten stuck in traffic) does make a difference. He will then usually be tired & cranky and that turns dinner into a battle.

Shannon - posted on 04/22/2009

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My son is now 2 however he started daycare at 6 months old. When I first starting sending him I cried everyday for a week or more. I work 10 hour shifts 4 days a week and my husband works late 2 nights out of my 4 days. This means that 2 days a week he gets dropped off at daycare around 9am and picked up around 5 by one of his grandparents who has him until we pick him up around 10pm. It's a long day for a child and I feel horrible having to do it. The good thing is that he seems to enjoy the daycare that he is with and afterwards he gets to see his grandparents who of course spoil him rotten! I think the most important thing is that on my days off I make sure to spend real, quality one on one time with him. Do the cleaning while he's napping, I take him to the park stuff like that. It doesn't have to be anything big just together time. I can tell you that now when I drop him at daycare he kisses me and says bye Mommy and is playing with his friends before I leave. I call him at Grandmas and he talks to me over the phone for a couple mins too. Believe me when I say it's you that feels it more than they do. Hope this helps :)

Antonia - posted on 04/22/2009

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My son is 13 months and spends 8 hrs a day at kindy 3 days a week. I also work at the daycare centre so I know that he is happy for most of the day.

It can be a long day for the children if they are not sleeping properly, but chances are your wee 4 month old will be sleeping and eating well and having positive interactions with his/her carers.

I have some babies in my room who have long days and are very happy to do it. If you are really worried, talk to your childs carers and ask lots of questions about their day, if bub was really not happy im sure they would let you know!

Wendi - posted on 04/21/2009

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I work 12 hr shifts and my little guy arrives at his daycare at 4:45am and we pick him up at 2:30pm. Luckily because I work 12hrs he only has to go 3 days a week. I felt bad waking him up so early, but now hes 14 months old (started at 3 months) and he loves it there playing with all the kids. Dont worry you will work out what is best for you!

Jennie - posted on 04/21/2009

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You know is hard to have you baby in daycare for a long time sometimes my kids are in from 6am to 5:30 and I feel bad but they really seem to enjoy there daycare so to them its not that bad and my kids are 3yrs, 2yrs, and 3months. So dont feel bad you have to do what you have to to take care of your little one.

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