Leave 4month old to go to vegas?????

Erica - posted on 06/24/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Hello every one! I just got a great offer from my office to pay for me to go to vegas for 2 week nights with them and watch my boss possibly win an award. My husband is welcome to come along but they aren't paying for his ticket and food, also they will not be paying me while I'm in vegas with them. (it's a fun thing not a work thing) My daughter will be around 4 months when we go. My mother - in - law is willing to take Caroline for both nights until we get back but she is older (in her 60's) and I'm concerned that even though she's willing we are asking too much.

Also, how can I justify leaving my daughter so we can go have fun in Vegas... isn't the four month mark suppose to be a big one where they get really attached??? This is a once in a life time opportunity for us, it's not like we make the kind of money where we can say oh, we'll go in a couple of years. My husband is stoked and can't understand why i'm even contemplating not going.

Any one have a suggestion? Thoughts? I'm at a loss, I don't want to screw up motherhood 4 months into the game.

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Erin - posted on 06/26/2009

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It's only 2 nights, go have fun, it's not often you get an opportunity like that. Is there a sister or sister-in-law who could stay with your mother-in-law. Is there another family member you could call? I don't know where you live but where I live there is an organization called , something Angels, I can't remember but they provide home care for elderly, baby sitting in a pinch. You could hire someone to stay over for the night with your MIL so the helper can get up in the night and there will be an extra set of hands and your husband's mother can get a good night's sleep. If you are not paying for your part of the trip you could dedicate that money to hiring the overnight help.

Tenille - posted on 06/25/2009

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I think you should go!! Of course it is normal to feel guilty and bad about doing so but at the same time you will feel that way if you dont. It doesnt make you a bad mom or make it look like you are trying to be a party mom. You are only gonna be gone for 2 nights and to be completely honest I dont think your babes will even notice you are gone. If you feel like uneasy about grandma taking baby maybe try a practice night just to see how she does and how you and babes do!! Good luck and have a great time in Vegas if you chose to go!! T

Bobbie - posted on 06/24/2009

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I agree with your husband, go have fun! Two week nights away from your child will not affect her attachement to you. This will give you and your husband an opportunity to be husband and wife not mommy and daddy. At this 4 months all your mother in law will need to do is feed change and play with the baby. Its won't be that demanding, provide her with the names and numbers of your babys dr a copy the insurance card (just in case). GO HAVE FUN!!!

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Teri - posted on 07/01/2009

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I am soo glad that you decided to go. Have some fun. Your daughter will not forget you.

Kimberly - posted on 06/27/2009

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Ha! I just came back from Vegas in June, and my husband was there for work, so I joined him for about 4 days. My son is 2, and I felt beyond guilty about leaving him even though my parents watched him. However, once I got out there and spent time with my husband, I felt less and less guilty. I needed the time away with my husband since we rarely if ever get out with family living so far away. I highly recommend the "adult time." You'll feel like a much better parent when you return excited to see your child, too!

Erica - posted on 06/26/2009

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Thank you, I think so. We are staying at Ceasars Palace and going to see things we would have never been able to see on our own. I'm so excited to go!!

Sandra - posted on 06/26/2009

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I'm so glad you are going! I had this similar dilemma when my daughter was 3 months and also Las Vegas. I felt guilty leaving but had a wonderful time with my husband and reconnected as a couple! It's only 2 days and you'll appreciate her that much more when you get back!!!

Erica - posted on 06/26/2009

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Thank you guys! We are going!!! We are pumped!!! And I thank you for your honest opinions and support!

Erica - posted on 06/25/2009

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Is it normal to feel horrible about wanting to go?! This is once in a lifetime but I can't share it with her. Thank you though, Joe will be very glad he has some one on his side! :)

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