Mixed feelings - to work or not to work

Grace - posted on 03/04/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Ladies,



I would like to get some insight on work vs. stay at home. Technically we can't afford for me to stay home BUT I have this really strong feeling that I would like to go on part-time. I currently work 40 hours a week and my job is very family friendly. However, I find myself wanting to be home more with my son and I feel guilty dropping him off at daycare where he stays for 10+ hours = (

(drop off 7:30am - pick up by 5:30pm). Also, I have thought about these work from home jobs but i'm scared of getting scammed.



Do any of you ladies have any ideas or personal experience with this nagging heart tugging issue?

Please let me know your thoughts.



Thanks!



-Grace-

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Grace - posted on 03/09/2009

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Thank you all for your replys.  I appreciate everyone's thoughts.  It is hard and everyday I continue to do my best. as of now I decided to continue my full time work.  Though I am keeping my options open I think part-time would be best. 



Thanks everyone!

Lori - posted on 03/04/2009

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I think your thinking right!  The time with our babies goes so fast!  Working from home allowed me to be with my babies, and now I have time to not only enjoy my children who are grown up with families of their own, I get to enjoy my grandchildren to.



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Lori

Holly - posted on 03/04/2009

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I use to be a stay at home mom til my husband went to college . Its hard I miss them so much . If you need the extra income I would say you need to work (economy not doing well ) . I know how you feel I felt sooo guilty and I still do but I know I have to work to help my family out .



    And for those home jobs I would say they are scams . Hope I could help you out ! Good luck :)

Deirdre - posted on 03/04/2009

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Grace,
I have 3 kids and know exactly how you feel - which is why I started my home-based business. I earn full-time income while I'm home with them.. best thing I ever did for my family. If you want to learn more, check out my website at www.formyfamily.myarbonne.com Hope you find what you're looking for! Deirdre

Deirdre - posted on 03/04/2009

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Quoting Grace:

Mixed feelings - to work or not to work

Ladies,

I would like to get some insight on work vs. stay at home. Technically we can't afford for me to stay home BUT I have this really strong feeling that I would like to go on part-time. I currently work 40 hours a week and my job is very family friendly. However, I find myself wanting to be home more with my son and I feel guilty dropping him off at daycare where he stays for 10+ hours = (
(drop off 7:30am - pick up by 5:30pm). Also, I have thought about these work from home jobs but i'm scared of getting scammed.

Do any of you ladies have any ideas or personal experience with this nagging heart tugging issue?
Please let me know your thoughts.

Thanks!

-Grace-


 

Deirdre - posted on 03/04/2009

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Quoting Grace:

Mixed feelings - to work or not to work

Ladies,

I would like to get some insight on work vs. stay at home. Technically we can't afford for me to stay home BUT I have this really strong feeling that I would like to go on part-time. I currently work 40 hours a week and my job is very family friendly. However, I find myself wanting to be home more with my son and I feel guilty dropping him off at daycare where he stays for 10+ hours = (
(drop off 7:30am - pick up by 5:30pm). Also, I have thought about these work from home jobs but i'm scared of getting scammed.

Do any of you ladies have any ideas or personal experience with this nagging heart tugging issue?
Please let me know your thoughts.

Thanks!

-Grace-


 

Amanda - posted on 03/04/2009

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I am a working mother of 2. The first year after my boys were born was the worst. I am a school teacher so I do get to stay at home on holidays and summers. I enjoy it but also enjoy working, having a good care giver makes a world of difference. I had my oldest in a nursery I hated and ended up moving him. It was a good day care but I didn't agree with everything that was going on, they didn't fit my philosophy. With my second he's always been with older ladies who do childcare in thier homes. I love this. The lady who watched him now is like a grandmother to him.

Having a goodcare giver helps make it easier to drop your child off.

I would say if your struggling discuss it with your husband and discuss your options.

Good luck!

Angela - posted on 03/04/2009

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I know how you feel. We can't afford for me too stay home either. I work in a school between the hours of 8.30 and 3.00 although adding travel time makes it feel a LOT longer lol. My husband works at night 7pm to 3am. This way we don't need daycare since my oldest is in school now and my youngest LOVES to visit her grandmother, free daycare right there lol.



Although I would LOVE to stay home sometimes, I also know that it would drive me crazy. I'm not the stay at home 24/7 kind of mom. I've tried it when I was out of work following a car accident but boy I went NUTS. I was so bored.



 



I would say follow your heart, maybe start selling avon. I hear that makes good money sometimes. If you are crafty maybe make stuff and sell them on ebay or something. Offer to do webpage design for a small company just starting up. there are a lot of things out there, we all just need to find where they are hiding.



 



I hope it helps although reading MY answer, you are probably even more confused. lol



 



Angela

Tina - posted on 03/04/2009

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I understand completely. I work mid nights and my son goes to day care from 8 -4. My husband work day time. I wish I can stay home with my lil guy. But he will miss the social time with other kids with his age. But when the weekend comes we spend every waking minute together.



I would love to work part time with home basis job but I am also scared to get scamed as well.

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It's hard, I completely understand your conflicting feelings. But for moms who feel the pull to work while balancing motherhood, working part time is the best solution! For me, I was never completely satisfied being a 100% "stay at home mom." I felt dull and lazy and unchallenged mentally. Once I started working part time at a job I love, I found that I became a better, happier mom and wife, which in turn creates happier kids. We have higher-quality time together now that our time is more precious. I am very lucky to have a family-friendly workplace and a job that allows me to make my own hours...but the end result is that I don't feel guilty putting my children in part-time childcare if I am happier and healthier as a result of working outside the home. It's not for everyone, of course, but I would encourage you to look for part-time jobs and don't be afraid to try to create a job situation that works for you. (When I applied for and was offered my current position, I said thanks but no thanks because I'm not willing to work more than 25 hours a week...and my soon-to-be boss said that would be fine!) Can you job-share at your current position or cut down to part time? Good luck!

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