Mommy guilt

Cheryl - posted on 06/04/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I'm a student and a waitress and I just started an internship, I hate when I have to work both jobs and I miss my little one so much. I know that what I'm doing is best in the long run but it's so hard to justify sometimes when my almost 1 year old is crying for me...any advice on how to deal with this?

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Jenny - posted on 06/15/2009

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i too feel guilty everytime i have to leave for work but i try to make the most of the time we do have together. We play, take a bike ride, go for a stroll, swim. I think in the long run they will know we love them no matter how much we have to work as long as we spend QUALITY time with them you know

Cheryl - posted on 06/14/2009

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I definitely know what you mean! I hate it when I miss a first something so I neglect housework, homework, friends etc to make sure I'm there every possible moment. Is this just a first child thing or does it happen with all of them?

Lisa - posted on 06/14/2009

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No one prepares you for the guilt that comes with being a Mom. I feel guilty right now because after a long day I decided to take 30 mins. for myself and check emails while my daughter plays downstairs with her Daddy! It's crazy but I feel like I have to spend every second with her so I don't miss anything!! I know in the long run it will get better.

Dana - posted on 06/12/2009

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It is about making the time you have together good quality time. I remember my babysitter prying my now 3-year-old's fingers off me when he was that age as I dropped him off, and I would sit in my car and cry. She assures me to this day he stopped crying within a few minutes of my leaving, though, and now when I drop him off it's no big deal. Remember that kids don't know anything different than what they have; my son doesn't even realize I could be staying home with him instead of going to work. It's just what's normal to him. So even though you may feel like you're cheating your baby, he/she doesn't feel cheated, really.

Keyla - posted on 06/11/2009

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It breaks my heart every time my son would cry as I dropped him off in day care. But, one has to work to provide the essentials--food, clothing, health care, etc. I think the only thing one can do is accept the way things are and try to enjoy the time one does have. For example, if I cleaned the house one morning, I try to really spend more time playing with him in the afternoon and the next day...

Heather - posted on 06/05/2009

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I know it's SOOOOO hard! Just picture what your life will be like once you are finished with school & the internship. Then picture what you & your little one's life would be like if you just quit school and your internship. Imagine trying to live off of tips for the rest of your lives. Quality time is better than quantity and babies really don't retain much memory until about the age of 4 so doing this now rather than later is definately being the best mommy you can be!

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