My 11 yr old wants to join Facebook, should I let him?

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Emily - posted on 04/20/2009

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I'd let him but I wouldn't allow a computer in his room. I'd help him set it up and make sure it was private and that he only talked to his friends and maybe relatives. I also like the idea of you having access to his email.

Brandy - posted on 04/19/2009

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I let my 11 year old daughter, but, the rule is she had to use the email and the password that I set up for her. I also control the profile questions and check it maybe once a month. So, I think it's fine if they're willing ot let you in. If not, then he's hiding something!

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Phoenicia - posted on 05/27/2009

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No, I think that facebook is more grown up, my daughter wanted to also and I told her to stay with bebo its for children.

Kelly - posted on 05/27/2009

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Another idea is to not give them the password at all. You be the only one who has it. That way you know exactly when he's going on, and how long he is spending on the site.

Jamie - posted on 05/23/2009

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Thank you for posting this, I'm glad to see I am not the only person undecided. I have a 12 yo son that wants a facebook page too. It wants it to play the games, he says. I would like to Thank Everyone else for their input. I'm going to take all suggestions in and talk to his stepdad and father about it. Again THANK YOU!!

Sky - posted on 05/23/2009

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my sons 8 & 10 yrs have an account each but I set them up I also kno there passwords & have put there friends on there that they can have & if they get anything from anyone they ask me or there dad if they can accept it or not



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Brenda - posted on 04/23/2009

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i'd let him.. buut help him make his e-mail and make sure you know the password.. tell him that you do weekly check to know that going on and who he is talking to.. no computers in the bedroom.. set down the rules that you want him to fallow and make sure that he understands them...

Emily - posted on 04/22/2009

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Quoting Brenda:

Thanks for responding. I ended up opting for a seemingly secure site called Facebookforkids.com (no relation to FB) It made him happy and I set it up securely and I used my email address so I will see all of his activity even if he thinks he deleted something. It is a really cool site with videos and games for kids. All kid friendly with a strict site monitor who will kick kids off for bad behavior...and they all have a built in friend called Mother Hen.


That sounds really neat! Since you are monitoring his activity I'd be on the lookout for him friending kids you don't know. They might not really be kids.

Jennie - posted on 04/21/2009

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There is a lot of crazy and messed up people out there its always best to know what your kid is doing when ever they on the internet.

Jennie - posted on 04/21/2009

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I would ask him why because he seems a bit young and idk I wouldnt let my kid but if you monitored him and new what was going on and who he was talking to sure but I would know my kids account info like all of it so if I ever need to I could check it out and thats not being a bad parent its being a good and safe parent. Good Luck

Kerron - posted on 04/21/2009

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I would say No.. As a facebook member I'm talking with other adults that I want to high school or college with.. As a matter of fact, I don't know of anyone who's child has a facebook account that is not at least a senior in high student. But, I'm sure you'll make the best decision for your son.

Brenda - posted on 04/20/2009

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Thanks for responding. I ended up opting for a seemingly secure site called Facebookforkids.com (no relation to FB) It made him happy and I set it up securely and I used my email address so I will see all of his activity even if he thinks he deleted something. It is a really cool site with videos and games for kids. All kid friendly with a strict site monitor who will kick kids off for bad behavior...and they all have a built in friend called Mother Hen.

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