My body & heart want a baby but my logic says NO!!!

User - posted on 05/11/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




Married Mother of 3 wants another baby but already has a HUGE responsibility on her shoulders.Had a miscarriage 9 months ago (baby was due about now) Hubby is all for it. Mother has part time job to consider(which keeps her sane) & financial issues(mild).Mother considers herself to be a nurturer by nature & sees that as her most important & strongest asset.Cannot imagine life without having another.She is turning 35 this year.


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Lyndsay - posted on 05/12/2009




If you cannot imagine life without another, then you should do it, have another. But first, figure out what needs to happen beforehand (ie: finances, job, etc.) and put that in place, which could mean finding other ways to save. You still have several more years to make your wish happen!

Devon - posted on 05/11/2009




sorry to hear about your miscarriage, that must have been hard. I would say that if you want another baby, then go for it. You can always sit down and figure out your expenses now and then add in the cost of what it would take for you and your hubby to have another one. but i think that you should really think about if you can afford another one or not. good luck :)

Jayne - posted on 05/11/2009




if you really want another go ahead, life is too short for regrets, the old of onlys ect, like previously you will manage financially and will benifit emotionally, it might also assist you in comming to terms with a prev miscarriage...

Elizabeth - posted on 05/11/2009




I'm kind of in a similar place. I'm 27 with a 2 year old son and a 4 year old step son. I always wanted kids, but I am the main supported of our family and with the amount of child support my husband pays, he can't really let me stay home. I love my son to death. I can't help but want one more though. I loved being pregnant and I would love to have a little sibling for my son to grow up with. Sometimes I think my hubby doesn't see it, because he has 2 kids. I love my step son to death, but no matter how much I love him and treat him like my own, he will never call my Mommy. I am right with you. I want another one so bad, but logically... I don't see how I could.

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Pray about it. I would say if you think you will regret not having another baby wait a little bit until things calm down (a year) and then have another baby.

Rabaab - posted on 05/11/2009




well you know if God wants to give you another child they will. We are thinking about whether we should have our 3rd child.. i really want to have another but my hubby is not sure. I mean if we thought about logic after our first child it would have said no also..

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