My Daughter Father wants his girlfriend mother to watch our daughter he only known his girlfriend and her mom for 9 months and im just hearing about them two, i said no. Im I wrong for saying no.

Mitchelle - posted on 04/17/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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The father of my daughter, his girlfriend, and his girlfriend mother all moved in together after only 9 months of knowing each other. He want to get our daughter on weekdays as girlfriend mother watch her while he is at work. He works from 6am to 6pm sometimes 7pm. Is it wrong for me to not want his gf mom watch our daughter when he only known her for 9 months. I don't know anything as far as where they lives, I never met his gf or her mom. All I know is they move in together within a very short period of time. I told him that I had a problem with it and that he should get our daughter when he is off so that he can be there with her because our daughter is 20 months and he has not been there or help me to raise her, he doesn't know our daughter that well and neither do his gf and her mom. I feel like something is not right a couple of days ago he said they didn't live together then the story switch to they live together and he was not going to tell me that his gf mom was going to watch our daughter I had to ask who was going to watch her because of that I feel like something is not right.

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Kierstin - posted on 04/19/2013

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as a mother, I think of my kids first... don't expose your daughter to such foolery. Your daughter needs consistency and it seems like your child's father do things without waiting it out and seeing what's the best solution. You will be happy with the decision you made. Have a great day and weekend :-)

Mitchelle - posted on 04/18/2013

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No I'm not having financial difficulties with child care expenses. Ive been home with my daughter for the past 20months while he was absent. I am about to get back to work very soon. Out the blue he said he want to start getting her, I said ok but who is goin to watch her while you at work he said his girlfriend mother. All three of them recently move in together only after 6 months of knowing each other, I said no, come get her when your off. I felt like something wasn't right with that situation and he has been absent for too long. All 3 of them move in with each other in January after 6 months of knowing them and been living together for only 3 months that's a total of 9 months. To me those are strangers, its no history there between the 3.

Enna - posted on 04/18/2013

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The whole situations sounds off to me. I wouldn't do it. What if you did give in and let the gf's mother watch her, then they broke up a couple weeks later. It would be confusing for your daughter.

Kierstin - posted on 04/18/2013

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If you have been raising your daughter primarily her entire life it doesn't make sense to give in to his request. There has to be more to your question... are you having financial difficulties which is causing you to have to figure out child care expenses? You are not wrong for saying no and mainly because you do not know the people your daughter would be around and neither does she. Your gut feeling is telling you that this is not safe for your daughter and you need to base your decision off of that.

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