My daughter is almost 2 and 1/2 and still wont use the potty? Is there anything I can do to help?

NASTASHA - posted on 10/22/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




She will sit on the potty, and wants to wipe herself, she just will not do anything while she is on it? She knows when she "poops" and will tell you afterwards, but not before she goes..... And if we just sit her on the potty, she sits there and plays.....


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Norma - posted on 11/15/2009




I asked loads of people when the right time was to start and how to go about it and one of my mates just left her 2 to decide for them selfs when they started which i did think she was being lazy and just didnt want to tackle the whole training thing. I found with mine when they are ready they will do it with my oldest i attempted with him and he just wouldnt entertain it and i thought i was to early with him and i waited for him to start asking to go to the toilet then about a week later i put him into pants he had 2 accidents that week and has never looked back he was 3 yrs & 2 months. My youngest the nursery sugested i should start trainig with him earlyer than i did with his brother and it has been a battle sometimes he will use the potty other times he wont and i have tryed everything with him and i really do beleave it is simply because he isnt ready so i have stoped trying to push the subject and im just going to wait and see if he will instigate it by him self like his brother did. With him i started at 2 yrs & 4 months he is nearly 3 now and he is starting to come round to the idear of going to the toilet but not quiet there yet if hes not picked it up with in the next couple of months i will start all over again but i do think he will make the transition in his own time. My main thought his as long as it happens before he starts school why should we push them so youngh it amazed me how aware me eldest became of his body functions after he turned 3 and i suppose this was highlighted by how unaware my younghest was of his body functions when we first started.

Kelly - posted on 11/14/2009




my son is 2 1/2 and similar. He knows about goign on the potty and at daycare he will go on the potty and has done at home too but im not sure if he knows that feeling when you need to go yet. I stoped histraining for about 3weeks now and im just about to start it up again.

I keep telling him we are going to use the big boy toilet now ashes a big boy. He doesnt like it when he pee's his pants but he just tells me and i clean him up.

I would just say stop it for awhile if she isnt intersting and then start up again with a different approach.

Steph - posted on 11/14/2009




hey this might sound mean but i put macey in pantis and brought her to the store and let her mess in them and told her i didnt have any clean panties and took her home and that aws the last time she messed her pants i dont know if she aws embarrassed or didnt like sitting in it but it worked

Laura - posted on 10/22/2009




Mom, I can understand your desire to want her to potty train soon. But, our desires as parents can sometimes come off to our children as unwanted pressures to perform. When at home with you, let her use her big girl panties. If she wets herself, she will not like the feel of being wet for too long a time. Also, instead of sitting her on the potty, ask her to go with you when you have to go: "monkey see, monkey do." You'll hear it a lot, but be patient. You're not doing anything worng, when she's ready....she'll surprise you. Good luck, mom.

Liesl - posted on 10/22/2009




Hi there, I used to just encourage them almost "like a dog" - put her potty next to yours and when ever you go take her with and have a chat about anything, just keep on doing this until you hear the sound of rushing waters, then when she gets up you praise her like you would do a doggie - go something like good girl well done fantastic and give her a treat even if it is 1 and I literally mean 1 smartie or jelly tot until she does it faithfully and then slowly take the treat away - let's say you tell her that if she does it for a whole week without you having to go with her - she can get an icecream and then you'll see it will become second nature and you will find yourself that she even forgets about the rewards.

Allison - posted on 10/22/2009




Biggest thing you can do is not stress about! Kids potty train when they are ready, and as long as you are exposing her to the idea and keeping it really positive, she will get there in her own time. My 1st daughter was about 2 1/2 and really wanted to potty train, so we put her in panties, she peed down her leg twice (hated it) and decided the potty was for her. My son, on the other hand, didn't train until 3 and he was pushing 4 until he was totally trained for #2. Now my youngest is 2 and 4 months...she knows about the potty but is too busy to stop and deal with it. I'm not worried...she'll get there when she gets there, and yours will too!!!

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