My son is 15months of age and he wont give up the pacifier. I've heard it causes buck teeth.

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My son is 15months of age and he constantly cries for his pacifier. I've tried hiding it, losing it, I've even resulted in putting ketchup on his "Baby cry no-more" (pacifier) . Please help me. It could cause his perfect white teeth to buck!!! Help me, a concered parent.

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Hi, Here are some of the things I tried with my daughter:

1. Have him throw the paci into the bed after nap and in the morning. My daughter used say "bye bye paci"



2. After #1 was working well, we started cutting the top off the paci, a little at a time. It prevents them from being able to suck. Pretty soon we told her the paci was broken and let her throw it away and say "bye bye paci"



Hope it helps!

Denise - posted on 07/08/2009

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He's still young so thats good. Just remember that you are the parent and he is the child. If he cries, it won't kill him. Kids also have a short attention span. So when he cries, let him vent for a minute and give him something to steer his attention. A toy, put on a movie, take him to play in the pool etc. Eventually he won't want that pacifier anymore. As for me, my son is 11 months old and didn't have a pacifier from day one. I do believe that kids need to be cuddled or sang to, but i don't think a pacifier is necessary to shut your kid up. You can do something else that soothes them so that they won't get attached to any one product. He is my third kid and neither of my girls used one neither. The 12yoa and 7yoa are both well mannered, and listens. If they get upset, i dont' mind for them to go get a 5 minute cooling off. At least they learn to deal with the emotions instead of pacifying them for the moment. Hope this helps.

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Faith - posted on 07/13/2009

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LOL I was a pacifier junkie. I definately do not have buck teeth. I was after 2 years old when tthey were FINALLY able to break me. I had them hidden and they would take it away from me i would cry then go get another one out of my stash. She couldnt figure out where i was hiding it then afer the third time she found my stash.... bu i found this to work after 2 make the child put it in he envelope and put it on a porch for the pacifier fairy... after that leave a note for him with a simple toy from the pacifier fairy and it will be better

Tammy - posted on 07/13/2009

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My daughter is 7 years old now and she had her paci 'til she was almost 3. Her teeth are perfect and she is not buck teeth!! But, to finally cut her from it, and we tried everything!!!, we cut a small hole in the end of the paci and when she sucked on it, it would just go flat, so she wasn't able to suck on it. She went through all of her "broken paci's" then finally gave it up!! It worked great! and don't worry so much about it for now if it settles him... Her dentist said it was more of a genetic thing than the paci and he was right! She has perfect teeth at 7 yrs old, even after hitting them when she was 18 months old!!

Michelle - posted on 07/12/2009

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If you are totally concered with it, then do what I did. My son was 14 months old and all he ever wanted was that stupid pacifier. My doctor told me to start taking them and cutting little holes in them. This way when he sucks on it there is nothing there. Then he will throw them away. Whenever he brings a new one to your attention, then cut a hole in that one too, soon he wont have any left and wont ask for them. Believe me this works.

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I cut the end off the pacifier. I never denied my daughter, I just told her it was broken and we didn't have another. She gave a good try to still like the "broken one" but it wasn't the same. After a couple of days she was through with it. No real drama, I think because she was allowed to decide it wasn't any good anymore. Now the fact that grandma (in-law) kept one hanging in the kitchen did cause some tense moments but, that is another topic.

Pj - posted on 07/11/2009

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It will be hard but i would take them all away. Take all his pacifiers and tie them to a bunch of balloons and let them go. At first it will be hard but he will get over them.

Michelle - posted on 07/11/2009

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i think that sucking on a thumb would cause buck teeth more so than a "me me" ...at least that is what my daughter who is now 8 years old use to call her pacifier...it was soo hard for her to give it up & even harder for me to take it away...she was 2 years old when she traded with Santa!!! wrapped it up with a bow & put it under the tree...the hardest part was we kept finding "me me's" around the house for weeks....she had ones that would light up, flower ones, steeler ones...u name it!!! Truely, i think it is more of an emotional attachment that kids get...i wouldnt worry so much about the teeth...they can always be fixed! Best of Luck to U!

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I don't understand how anyone could give their kid a pacifier. Kids find their own security with either toys, blankies or their fingers/thumb. I've heard that there's nothing to worry about with pacifiers or fingers/thumb until their adult teeth come about. Some of the comments below have very good advice for weening their kids off pacifiers.

Tricia - posted on 07/10/2009

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My second child loved her pacifier and she was a little over two when we took it away. She does not have buck teeth, but i have spent a lot of money on her mouth, she has braces and an expander on her top palate because her top jaw is too small and her adult teeth don't have enough room to come in straight. I do not believe it is related to her using her pacifier though.

Lisa - posted on 07/10/2009

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Well my oldest daughter just got her teeth fixed and she had one till she was 3 1/2-4 yrs old...They said it is worse on the roof of the mouth then anything...and my youngest daughter only had one till she was 2months old and I was told she will need her teeth fixed to so...in my eyes it doesnt mater...If there teeth are going to come in not right, then there not going to...Nothing is going to change that...plus I had one till I was 11 and my teeth couldnt be better...Ive had many people ask if I had braces or not...Its all on the parent Im sure...Hope this helps

Nichole - posted on 07/10/2009

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oops forgot I also wanted to add another note: friends of ours recommended putting the nail biting stuff you paint on your fingernails, to stop nail biting, on to the pacifiers 1 by 1. So, at 3, we told our son that the binkies break when you get too big. The stuff tastes bad enough that he willingly threw the "broken" pacifiers in the trash (it doesn't rinse off so we even tried to "help" make it taste better by running under the sink). We "broke" one binky every other day or so and within a week or 2, they were gone! GOOD LUCK!!

Nichole - posted on 07/10/2009

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We tried "just taking the pacifier away" with our first child and it was traumatic for all 3 of us! So, when child #2 was 2yrs old we talked to our pediatric dentist, before revisiting this sad subject. He told us, and I quote, "...there is a possibility that he will turn to sucking his thumb and while I don't have a single 10 yr old patient who sucks a pacifier I do have some that suck their thumb!" He also told us that as long as he stopped using it before he started losing teeth (5-6 yr) his permanent teeth would be unaffected.

Maryann - posted on 07/10/2009

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My daughter was 2, when I explained to her that when she lost the last pacifier we would not buy anymore. She did and she was ok with not having it anymore. She is now 11 and she does not have buck teeth.

Robyn - posted on 07/10/2009

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My 8 1/2 year old used a pacifier until he was 3, the pediatrician told me to let him have it or he would go to his thumb and his thumb he could take everywhere. He will grow out of it, let it be.

Robyn

T_cjones108 - posted on 07/10/2009

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Quoting Erin:

This might sound mean but when I took my daughters pacifer away I just took it away. She was having ear infections all the time and her doctor suggested that I take it away. She cried for a few days but each day it got less and less until soon she forgot all about it! I don't think it's easy taking anything away that is a type of security for our children. However, she was fine. Hope this helps.



thats what i did :) my boy is 1years old today :D and hasnt had a "nuk" for 4 months!!!!

Erin - posted on 07/10/2009

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This might sound mean but when I took my daughters pacifer away I just took it away. She was having ear infections all the time and her doctor suggested that I take it away. She cried for a few days but each day it got less and less until soon she forgot all about it! I don't think it's easy taking anything away that is a type of security for our children. However, she was fine. Hope this helps.

Chelsea - posted on 07/10/2009

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my son was a sickly kid so he really loved that “nuk” and he had it a lot. Anyway, about a year we stopped the bottle and only let him have the nuk at bedtime and naps. It was great cuz he love going to sleep and I got some breaks, lol.
Anyway, distraction and bribes work really well. Try not letting him have it on a day where he is really distracted, like at the zoo or when cousins come to play or when he is not at home. When he asks for it change the subject, give him something else to do or even give him a “treat”. He is still young but maybe a sticker chart where every hour that he doesnt use or cry for it he can pick a treat. If you don’t allow sugar or candy give something else. When my son was potty training we did this and he got a hot wheel car for every day that he didnt pee in his under-roos. If he had an accident he still was rewarded with stickers for the rest of the time he went on the potty and hten given a treat at the end of the week. We only had to do that for 3 weeks and then no more. Even if you go to the dollar store and pick up a bunch of crap to keep him entertained its worth the $. My niece had to get braces twice cuz of how long she had her pacifier. She had the rounded teeth just the pacifier. Its gonna be hard but there has got to be something that you baby likes enough to give up even if its just for a couple hours until nap time.
Good luck, its not easy to hear your baby cry when you know its an easy fix. Thats why distraction is great! :)

Tara - posted on 07/09/2009

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I know what you are going through! We are currently weaning our 14 month of off the pacifier as well. We started by taking it out of his mouth when he wakes up, and he gets it back when he gets back into the crib for nap. And when he wakes up from nap, we leave it there until bed time. Now, if we leave the house I do make sure I have it with me- for that "just in case" situation- but it seems to be working. We said we would do this for awhile, and as we did with our other child...... we will only give it to him for bed....... and from there not at all. It is a process, so please don't get frusterated and upset. I as well would not get tooooo concerned about the teeth. I was more focused on my oldest starting to talk. I feel without the pacifier so much, it encourages the child to try to say things more.

But once again, don't get frusterated--- it will happen over time!!!!!!!

Dulce - posted on 07/09/2009

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My son was the same way and you know what I did, it's only for a couple of nights or days but it worked for me. Just not give it to him. LOL. Boy did we hear it for like 4 nights but he's off of it. Now it's the bottle and it's hard because he knows how to open the fridge.

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I am a hygienist and would recommend not giving it up yet. My daughter had her paci until 3rd bday and we gave it up that day becasue i knew she would be busy w/ bday party. It was only hard for a few days. Extra cuddling and reading a story helped. It can cause teeth ( bite to change however if you take it away too soon, they could choose their thumb which DEFINATELY will change and have protruding teeth. I would wait until they are finished potty training for a good couple of months and then limit paci to her room or lose it for good then and do some extra cuddling at night. For those parents with a thumb sucker there is this bracelet called a T-guard and it works GREAT, i have had patients who have stopped years of thumb sucking in a matter of 2 weeks or less! Unfortunately it doesn't work for finger suckers. Hope this helps.

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I am a hygienist and I recommend not really trying to give it up yet. My daughter had the pacifier until her 3rd bday. On her birthday I knew we were going to be busy w/ a party and fun stuff all day, so I lost the paci. I gave her extra cuddling at night and it was easier than I thought it would be. Just a few days until she was over it and she used to have that thing her her mouth alot. It can change their bite, however it is easier to take away a paci than it is to get rid of a thumb. Unfortunatley if the paci is taken away to early, children tend to go for fingers or thumbs. This is where protruding front teeth really can occur. My advice is to wait until after potty training has occured and is successful for a couple months and then try to cut back the paci. Maybe if you use your paci it has to be in your room or only at nap time. Also for parents of children who do suck there thumbs (not fingers) there is a wonderful thing called a t-guard that works miracles at getting children to stop sucking your thumb. It is a bracelet(actually 2 in case they switch thumbs) and the bracelet goes over the thumb and doesn't give the child the satisfaction of sucking. Good luck and don't stress, I wouldn't worry too much until your child is 3 and over potty training and sleeping hurdles.

Wendy - posted on 07/09/2009

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We took the pacifier away from my oldest when he was 15-months old. I saw an episode of Super Nanny with a child that was 3 and still had his pacifier. The younger your child is when you take it away the easier it is. You can always substitute it with a stuffed animal or special blanket.

Marie - posted on 07/09/2009

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My daughter just gave up her paci at 26 months old. I wish I would have done it sooner but I couldnt do it. The first thing I did was limit the paci during the day, whenever she would ask for it I would divert her attention to something else and she would forget. Step 2 was only give it to her for her naps so I put it away where she could not see it and be reminded. Step 3 no more daytime use, night time only and when she feel asleep a few minutes later I would take the paci out her mouth. The last step of eliminating all together was the hardest for her up until last week she would still ask for it to go to bed I would just react in a silly crazy way and say What!! theres no bobo your a BIG girl now and stuff like that. All the steps I did have about 2 weeks in between them so the transition isnt drastic. I know it is difficult but hang in there and try your best not to give in to those big brown eyes when he asks for it (your heart will break) Tell her hubby, family and caregiver of your transition so that they can be aware of it and be supportive. Im glad it finally worked. Now im going to continue potty training...

Jessica - posted on 07/09/2009

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Aha, he wants him to settle down and he doesn't want to hear the screams. I know this one all too well. I honestly don't think your cutie is ready to let it go, so cut yourself some slack and let him hold onto it for a while longer. But prepare your son's father that the time will come and you'll need his support. That way daddy can start thinking about distractions to try too. Looks like they both will go through the "baby cry no-more" separation anxiety. This is just one of those issues to tackle among so many more =)

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Sounds like you have your children well-trained. Yes indeedy its a substitute to void the louud crying and tantrums. But i defitnitely willing to try new things. Whatz your suggestion. Movies, toys, games dont work when their concentrating on that relief. Something like ciggarettes huh? You have to wing them.

Annette - posted on 07/08/2009

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Out of my five children three were pacifier babies. None of my children have buck teeth and I survived with my sanity it tack. Our third daughter was three before she gave it up. I started clipping the send of it a little at a time until she couldn't hold it in her mouth comfortably anymore. Just relax, he is still a baby. Just make sure that you are not embarrassed by him having the pacifier hanging out in his mouth. He can tell how you feel and will respond the opposite way you want him to.

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Quoting Deanna:

I was told not to worry about it untill the adult teeth start to come in. By then he would have given it up.



True but also comes the discoloration of the teeth, loss of enamel, & buck girl bye!

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I was told not to worry about it untill the adult teeth start to come in. By then he would have given it up.

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With that in mind rest assure I could sit back and relax. My son's father really spoils our child. When I try to hide it he always seem to convince me to give in and give our son the "baby cry no-more". Any suggestions.... mom in destress from son's father.

Jessica - posted on 07/08/2009

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We were terrified that our son would never give it up. A few months before his second birthday (when he REALLY could understand us) we only let him have the paci at nap and night. Then a few weeks later, it was only at night, then right before his second birthday we said "other babies need them" and it really did work. I would not be concerned about his teeth until he is past 2. Our son was a paci junkie from birth to when we started this and his teeth are perfect. Just stay on it, be strong and it will get easier. Good luck!

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