My three years old son refuses to sleep in his own bed and screams for hours when I try and make him, how can I get him to sleep in his bed and still get some sleep myself?

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Jeni - posted on 02/19/2009

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We also were having a problem with our son not wanting to go to sleep unless mommy sleeps with him and then coming into our room in the middle of the night He has never been allowed to sleep in our bed so we are not sure why he is suddenly doing this.  This week we started a new "policy".  I printed out a calendar and for every night he goes to bed without fussing and stays in his bedroom, except to go potty, he gets to put a sticker on the calendar and after 5 stickers he gets a new "hot wheel" (these cars are his life).  So far he has 3 stickers for all three nights and he is already trying to figure out what car he is going to get on Saturday.  You can change this anyway you want, and use it for just about anything, you just need to find what is important to him.  Good Luck!  Jeni

Tanya - posted on 02/15/2009

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I have always had a problem with my oldest daughter sleeping in her own bed. The problem was solved when she was about 3.5 and wanted to sleep over at her cousin's house. We told her that she could sleep over at Auntie's house until she slept in room like a big girl all night long ( all night meaning she could come into our room until the sun came up). We havent had a problem ever since.

Tammi - posted on 02/14/2009

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I agree with Stacey find out what the fears or being in the room by himself is....is his room plain or is it done up for a boy?  If not maybe ask him if he would like to have his room painted and have him help pick out the stuff for the walls.  My daughter is almost 5 and goes through that once in a while what we do is wind down on the couch with a story and then I lay with her for a few minutes.  But I always tell her that I will lay with her for 5 min 10 min whatever you want the time to be then when that time is up say time is up and leave the room.  I'm a super nanny believer and was actually watching episodes that dealt with that and the trick is to be consistant.  about an hour before bed let him know that it is almost bed time and count down letting him know half hour till bed 10 minutes etc put them in bed lay with them then leave the room if he gets out firmly tell him no it is bed time and you need to stay in your bed put him back in everytime he gets out just keep putting him back in after the first time of getting up the second and the third time firmly say it is bedtime after that don't say a word just return him to his bed.  It could take a good while the first night you do that but as the nights go on you will find he will catch on and you mean business.  I also have a calander just for my daughter that she gets to put stickers on if she stays in her bed all night perhaps you can try that as well.  Try the supernanny trick after you have concluded that he does not have a fear of his room.



Good luck and let me know how it works out



Hang tough and be consistent

Stacy - posted on 02/14/2009

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We had the same problem to a degree with my three year old about a year ago when we switched him into a toddler bed in his own room. I guess the first thing to figure out is what is it that he doesn't like about his own room. For our so it turns out he is scared of the dark so we bought a night light and a protective lion to protect him at night and then played on his desire to be a "big boy" and told him that big boys had their own beds. He now sleeps very well in his own room. But you need to address his fears about being on his own.

Noreen - posted on 02/13/2009

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What you can do is lay with him in the bed read a story to him or i am sure you have a bed time routine. then when you see he is drifting off to sleep put a rolled up duvet on the side of him so he can feel your warmth and maybe spray the duvet with your perfume. children just like to be reasurred that mom is there and she won't go anywhere. try that and let me know if it works or not all the best

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