new working Mom

Aundrea - posted on 11/05/2008 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hi my baby is 8 1/2 weeks old i went back to work the day after he turned 6 weeks i feel so guilty. I never have time for my baby until the weekend. When i get home i have to make bottles cook dinner give him and me a bath then its time for bed. I want to spend more time with hime but its just not enough hours in the day. I feel so bad my mother keeps him while i work and he is doing thing that i know nothing about. can any one give me tips on how to adjust

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It's hard but it gets a little easier every day. Once you realize the kids have a great time (both of mine went through daycare; one is still in it!) and they learn so much, it's easier to drop them off every day. I find that the times we are together (evenings and all weekends) are jammed packed with things we do together and we have a great time and treasure those moments. I think daycare really helped my kids. They are extremely social and very adaptable to change. My older one's transition into school was seamless and she loves being with her friends (she's 6!). Don't worry -- just because you work it doesn't mean you love your kids any less than moms who stay-at-home! When they get older, they start to even express their pride in your work and what you do outside of the home. It's great hearing your child boast about "what my mommy does at work"! Good luck! Hang in there!

Gretchen - posted on 11/05/2008

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Check out the "new Member" post by Kristen Miyomoto. There are some great thoughts listed there that might help

Gretchen - posted on 11/05/2008

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I have two and you think it would be easier the second time around, but it's not. First take a deep breath and relax. Motherhood is stressful enough without you putting more stress on yourself. Second, I agree with Elena, you are very lucky that your mom is taking care of your bundle of joy. She obviously raised a wonderful woman. Trust that she can help you do the same for your child. I live for the weekends. I spend every second I can with my kids on the weekends. I used to think the house had to be in perfect order. Forget that! I clean and do laundry when the kids sleep and spend their waking moments with them. Also keep in mind that you are still coming down off of major hormones and it might be a few months before this all ceases to be stressful. The fact that you are worried shows how much you love your baby. I still worry that no one takes care of my kids (ages 5 and 17 months) exactly the way that I want them taken care of. But they are happy and healthy and I think until I can win the lottery and stay home with them, that's all I can ask for. :-)

Elena - posted on 11/05/2008

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Ech, if you get any help, let me know. I go back to work in 3 weeks, and I cannot help but think that no one can take care of her as well as I can. You're lucky you have your mom to help out! At least you know she'll do a good job, since you made it this far!

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