PLEASE, PLEASE someone help!!!!!!!

Natasha - posted on 02/20/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )




i just found out that i am pregnant and just started a new job!!!!!!! how should i tell them, the doctors think that i am already 3 months!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! the reason y i just found out is that i had none of the same sympoms as my son, NONE!!!!! i Had NO idea that i was pregnant till now. PLEASE some one help me :(


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Sara - posted on 02/26/2009




Ok, i literally got pregnant the week I started a new job last year. I waited as long as I could, but then i had a discussion with my HR rep and told them that I was expecting, what my plan was (How long I was going to take for maternity, if I was going to return, etc). They were very supportive. There are laws that protect you from getting fired due to reasons like this, but I think it probably does depend on the size of the company, etc. Try not to stress yourself out too much, it'll all work out! Good luck!

Shade - posted on 02/26/2009




It is good we all know what it entails differently to b pregnant. Firstly congrats I do agree with the two sides but it is your body and none of us knows what your pregnancy period is like so i I blieve it is down to this that determines what you are going to do. Talk it over with your partner and make a decision together and take it from there. Good luck and I hope it works out right for you.

Jo - posted on 02/26/2009




Don't worry I was the same, I found out that I was 13 weeks pregnant and I had only been at my new job 6 weeks. I dreaded telling them but they were briliant about it all so I was worrying over nothing. Just be honest with them and I be sure it will be fine as it wasn't as you planned getting pregnant. Keep me informed. x

Olga - posted on 02/23/2009




Wow! First of all .. Congrats.. Children are blessings!! I would just be honest and say that it was a total surprise. I suggest when you go meet with your boss go with a written plan as to how you'll ensure projects and responsibilities will be taken care of by the time you go on maternity leave. I will give him/her periodic updates as to where you are at with each specific responsibility. Volunteer to be part of workgroups, initiatives, projects so that it shows your commitment to your job and that you plan to return. The sooner you let your bosses know the better. 

Hope it helps. Good luck!!


Anika - posted on 02/23/2009




Congrats. I agree with the folks who say you should wait a bit, just until you become comfortable with the pregnancy. Sounds like it was a bit of a shock, and you might need some time to come to grips before you share with your new boss and coworkers.

Jaclyn - posted on 02/23/2009




You should wait till you feel comfortable and get astablished there alittle bit and then tell them. By law you dont have to tell them and they cant fire you for it eiather. You can always tell them that you watied because you wanted to make sure everything was healthy about the pregnancy. I did the same thing i started a job 1 month pregnant and didnt tell them and then when i was 3-4 months i told them and they were excited for me. By then they will know you better. Good luck

Lori - posted on 02/23/2009





I have 3 wonderful kids. It's a time of celebration!

I think if they aren't receptive to your challenge then they are not worth it anyway. I have worked from home all my married life. Time goes to fast, try working from home so you can be with your children and not miss out on those special times :)

Camilla - posted on 02/23/2009





I would just be honest and tell them what you have put here, I`m sure it'll` be fine.

Karina - posted on 02/23/2009




i think ....tell them ASAP...that way they wont think of you as being elusive and secretive.

honesty is the best policy and if the worst happens at least you have been open and honest and you wont have any regrets.

good luck, karina (australia)

Tristan - posted on 02/22/2009




First- Congratualtions! What a great surprise!

I was in the same position, only a little earlier when I found out. I just kept it all to myself until the end of the 1st trimester and then let them know. It was a difficult conversation but I told them that there was no way I could not work so I had every intention of coming back to work. And I did. They were good about it and let me have 3 months of maternity leave even though I had only been there 7 months by the time the baby came. I do believe honesty is the best policy too. Good Luck!

Kirsty - posted on 02/20/2009




Congratulations, if they are a good employer than they will understand from Day 1. Let your oss know as soon a possible and then you will know your options, u have rights and so no need to worry!

Jaimie - posted on 02/20/2009




I would wait another month to tell them. As an employer, I have no legal right to know when people become pregnant so it is your secret to keep. I figure that by waiting another month, you can let them see how valuable you are to their company then let them know. Congrats by the way.

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Congrats!!  Just be honest, tell them exactly what you just told us, honest is always best...then you will see what kind of company they are I suppose...

Jennifer - posted on 02/20/2009




Check the laws in your state to see what the employer is required to do and what your rights are, if any.

You could also present it with your new employer with you intentions to return to work.

Be sure to read the FMLA.

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