Rent for unemployed adult child.

Karen - posted on 07/10/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




My oldest son graduates next year. I am planning to set a rule that he is allowed to stay at home rent free if he is going to school full time. If he is not going to school, I plan to charge him rent, but want to make it a fair amount. The point is to get him used to the real world and becoming an adult but not to discourage him. What would be a fair amount to ask for?


Keli - posted on 07/10/2010




i agree with rachel with the 200. but i would stress the school instead of focusing on the rent.its too easy to get a job and pay you rent

Sharon - posted on 07/10/2010




I think 10% of his earnings for the first year then increase this each years so that he moves out. most men will stay living at home because mammy will do all the chores.


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Becky - posted on 08/05/2010




When I moved back home (going though my divorce) with my daughter, my Mom charged me $300/mo. She wanted to be fair to me because I had a fair amount of debt from my ex that I had to get caught up, but 2 extra mouths to feed, the extra electricity, water usage etc etc had to be covered too. I felt it was more than reasonable and I still did some of the grocery shopping too.

Ashley - posted on 08/04/2010




My parents charged me 100.00 in rent a month. I think that's a good amount but I also had to help buy food.

Marcy - posted on 08/04/2010




If he isn't going to continue school I would charge him what the going rent is to rent a room in your area plus the cost of food, etc. Then figure out what the bottom line is and tell him that you will reduce that amount by giving him things to do around the house. If he isn't going to go to school and he is going to work chances are he will make minimum wage which won't even come close to covering what "real world" rent is. I just read Julie's email below so I won't go on as we are on the same page.....

Julie - posted on 08/04/2010




Maybe check out the ads and see what a single or loft would cost if he were at school and charge him the average. You get the option of discounting if he "works" for you (ie does yard work/helps clean/laundry/walk dog/whatever) ... or not.

You will be doing him a GREAT favor, even if you set the money aside and give it back to him when he gets his own place/married/whatever.

NOTHING IN LIFE IS FREE -- big fan, I know too many young adults who *should* know how to budget better but cannot b/c their parents were too "nice" "protective" or whatever. Good for you!

Karen - posted on 08/03/2010




Thank you all for your responses. I do plan on stressing school, especially since he does very well and I hope to encourage him to develop skills and abilities that will lead him to a satisfying career. It is my wish that the prospect of having to pay rent if he is not going to school will make going more attractive.

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