Seperation Anxiety?

Amelia - posted on 01/20/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My husband and I have worked out a schedule where he works the day shift and I work from 8pm - 4:30 am and we keep our 8 month son at home during the day. It was working wonderfully for the first couple weeks but now everytime I leave to go start putting my coat on he starts whining and crying and he does this all night until my husband puts him to bed. Our doctor warned us about seperation anxiety so I'm thinking that's what it is but it drives my husband up the wall. Any suggestions or tips?

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Amelia - posted on 01/27/2009

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Thanks for the suggestions everyone. I will try a few different things and see what works best. I noticed the other night if my husband is giving him a bath when I leave he is fine as well.

Hila - posted on 01/25/2009

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Hi- I also had a daughter who cried everytime I started to get ready for work and when I would leave in the morning- it started when she was about 6 months old. I found the best way to ease it was a routine. Now in the morning, we read some books, have breakfast together, wash hands/brush teeth, wash my pump parts together (she "helps"), and then her nanny comes and they do some coloring while I get dressed. When I am ready to leave, I give her a hug and kiss and tell her "bye bye, I love you and I will see you tonight".



You can make up your own routine- just be consistent and he will learn to trust that you will always return...it takes time and every baby is different. Maybe your husband can do an activity that only they do together like a special daddy book or a song, etc ... Good luck!

Sally - posted on 01/23/2009

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Hi - this is a little hard as all babies are so different and have different levels of seperation anxiety. With our toddler, it is the same story, she wants to be with me all the time and when my husband tries to help, she will cry for me when taken away. However, I have noticed that when he gets down on the floor to simply play with her, she will tend to be more at ease with him. Since your son feels/knows you are leaving, maybe your husband can try to play with him, distract him, get his attention with toys or books or any games your son likes. It is worth a try. Best of luck!

Jax - posted on 01/21/2009

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it's hard trying to juggle everything. prehaps taking the baby out in the buggy might work by the sound of it its watching you leave that starts making him cry so fingers crossed x

Amelia - posted on 01/21/2009

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The only problem with putting him to bed that early is he will be up earlier in the morning as well and I don't get home until 5 in the morning. 4 hours of sleep doesn't work for me. Yeah, maybe we will try that. It's just getting to the point where my husband can't deal with the constant crying for 2 - 3 hours.

Jax - posted on 01/21/2009

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could you try getting him to sleep before you leave for work? this might take some time to get him into a routine but he'll never know your gone if he doesn't see you go or maybe your husband could take him for a walk in the buggy while you sneak out the house with out him seeing you leave?? hope it helps

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