Should i give up completely on finding true love considering my negative history in that department?

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Cidalia - posted on 07/28/2009

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No, never give up. I had a very bad and very heartbreaking experience with my first husband and could have given up, but I'm now truly with my soul mate. I actually became braver once I got past the heartache. I figured, I don't know if my Mr. Right is out there, but I won't give up on the ideal.. if it doesn't happen, at least I was open to it, and if it does happen, all the better for me. It would be far worse to give up and miss finding love than to keep a spark of hope and not find the right guy. Of course, you don't actively go looking, you just keep your options and your heart open, don't fear getting hurt again ... you survived before, you can do it again, and raise your standards when dating.. that will really minimize the toads you run into. :)

Claudia - posted on 07/27/2009

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No one should ever give up! What's happened in the past is there, in the past, and has absolutely no bearing on what the future holds, unless you hang onto it. Focus on doing the absolute best you can in every day you have with gratitude always, and keep the focus of what you desire etched in your mind (to daydream about if you will, in your leisure). Hang on to the hope that what you desire will indeed happen and in the meantime make the best of what you can and have now, one day at a time. Hope this helps! Best regards, Claudia

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I would like to add to this> I have a man that is head over heals wanting me to marry him but I have a block on love as I go thru a second divorce. Is this something I should try for or just tell him finally that this won't work out. He is military and leaves in a few months. We are going to try to do the long distance angle and see if it works. But both of us have jealousy issues. I am just not sure I can do it again. I wasn't looking for him and told him that I need a lot of time and he has been with me for a year and a half and then we decided to try dating. I have three kids and he has four. So we are quite the bunch. Any thoughts are apreciated!

Trisha - posted on 07/22/2009

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Giving up is not a good idea! My suggestion is to tell yourself you are putting men on hold for awhile. Thats what I did. 3 1/2 weeks after I did that I found the man I want to spend my life with.

Amy - posted on 07/22/2009

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Not at all! But don't try to find it-God will guide it to you when your lover is good enough for you.

Mari - posted on 07/21/2009

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Of course not. I believe that you shouldn't go looking for it. When the time is right, it will find you. When you go looking, we tend to find the wrong person. I believe that true love comes when you least suspect it and from the most unlikeliest sources.

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