sisters annoying each other

Denise - posted on 08/26/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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How do you get sisters, 13 and 9, to stop buggin each other and show love and respect for each other.

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Kristen - posted on 08/31/2009

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I have no idea. My girls are 8 and 3, almost 4. They argue so much! What I do is for my own sanity mostly. I send them both to their room, together and tell them not to come out until they have figured out how to get along. If they come out and are still fighting I just tell them to go back. I can't constantly play referee. It would make me crazy.

Shari - posted on 08/28/2009

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I have three girls, 13, 11, and 10. I started a positive system, eveytime they said or did something nice for each other they got a scoop of popcorn kernals. When they filled a designated container we voted a fun family activity to do together. The other thing that I have found out is that everything with kids seems to last for a phase and it seems to finally end when you can't take it any more.

Jennifer - posted on 08/27/2009

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I had a friend that had 3 grand daughters, 5, 4, and 3. One day they were arguing about who got to wear sun glasses. The grandmother told them to work it out. Well the older girls kept arguing, while the younger said the older girls could have them. As a result the 3 year old got a special treat. The two olders girls asked why - the grandmother indicated that it was because the younger girl figured out how to work out the conflict. And that started them attempting to resolve other issues by themselves instead of fighting all the time. If they could, life was better for them.

Stephanie - posted on 08/26/2009

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I was the same way with my sis (we are 2yr apart). it depends on their personalities, they might never grow out of it. My sis and I are sometime still at each others throats. We are 2 different people. I have a saying (well it's not extactly mine) If i'm not picking on you i don't like you.
Maybe that's how they deal. By them bugging each other it's a way of showing their affection for one another. i wouldn't force them to get along. however nice it would be for you to have serentity. it definelty won't happen until they are much older.

Topaz - posted on 08/26/2009

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its probably not going to get any better till they both reach at least highschool age.. my sister and i were the exact same way. once highschool was over we realized that we were being stupid and only made my mom mad.. now its even better because we both have our own babies and we hang out and talk more often!

Kelly - posted on 08/26/2009

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I am dealing with the same thing with my 2 older girls 14 and 11. I don't think that there is a way to get them to stop, that's what sisters do to each other. I've come to learn that no matter how hard I try to get them to stop, they just make it worse. They claim that is how they show each other that they love one another!! I try to ignore it or I will go crazy. Good luck!!!

Ingrid - posted on 08/26/2009

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I see that I am not the only one with this problem although my girls are 6 years apart. I am still trying to work the kinks out of my own system but if you can find something that they are both interested in (animals, craft projects) try to get them to work together to look after or create something that they can both be proud of. Good luck :)

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