Started back at work and my son is not adjusting to his new dayhome...

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Hi moms,

I am looking for some advice.. or words of encouragement :)

I have just started back to work after being off on maternity leave and my 10 month old son is not adjusting to his dayhome at all! He was really good the first day, (I bawled when I dropped him off but he was great). He napped there and ate well and was happy when he was home later that night. The last 3 days have been the exact opposite, he won't sleep there, he won't eat and he is constantly crying! It is now getting to the point the other kids in the dayhome are starting to whine and want to be picked up because my son is getting a lot of the attention because he is crying all day. When he gets home at nights now, he is exhausted, barely eats dinner and is in bed KO'd an hour after getting home. I knew it would be hard but I was not anticipating it being so physically hard on him. How long does it take for kids to adjust normally? Any advice on how to proceed? Anyone in the same boat?




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Lisa - posted on 12/08/2008




I worked the first 18 months that I had my daughter. Truly a stressful situation and I completely empathize.
If you email me your address, I will send you a copy of my software: My Baby's Day Activity Tracking software. Hopefully the caregivers at the dayhome will be willing to electronically journalize his day for you (takes 5 minutes or less). This will give you a much better visual and specific feedback on his day. If you prefer, our newest version is currently in a trial phase and I could send you the link. This is an online version that you can check from ANY computer to see how your little guy is doing. Just has a few bugs...

User - posted on 12/07/2008




Definetly more time is needed for him to adjust. Your attitude plays a huge part, even if you never say anything, kids do pick up on our stress levels. My boys went to daycare from 6 mths till they started gr 1. They still had days where they cryed and fussed. I think that when you drop kids off, the longer you stay to make sure they're ok the longer they will take to adjust. It may sound mean but dropping and leaving is way easier in the long run.

Terri - posted on 12/06/2008




It's different for every baby, but your son will get through it! Don't worry about the other children (you already have enough guilt I'm sure), just make sure you are comfortable with your provider and hang in there.

Kris - posted on 12/05/2008




I would just say give him a little more time to adjust. The weekend is coming up. You will be with him all day Saturday and Sunday to get some attention from you. It will just take a little time. My son was like that the first time we took him to a daycare home. He would have a good week with her, then a few bad days. It will all work out. Does he have things such as a blanket or pillow from home that he takes to his dayhome? That might help a little if he doesn't already have some of those items with him. Good luck.

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