Teenagers

Nafeesha - posted on 04/21/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My daughter just made 13 and displayed to me she was not interested in boyts. I went throught her phone the other day and found texts from a sisteen year old boy. I yelled and her. I'm really concerned. I don't want her to become a teenage mother. I don't even think I can handle that. What should I do?

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Nafeesha - posted on 04/24/2009

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Thanks ladies for your advice.I'll admit my first reaction was to yell and scream and call him. After I read your notes, I talked to her openly and honestly. She told me she wants me to stay on her and she will only talk to boys her age. She also told me she will communicate to me when she's ready to have sex and that she wants more out of her life. She told me she wants to go to Spellman college. I explained to her I don't care what college you go to as long as you get there with no trouble. I'm hoping out talk really helped. I also think its a good idea, as one of you stated, that I have her talk to other adults in my family. She tells my sister a lot of things she doesn't tell me so I think I'll ask her to speak to her as well. I"m positive she will listen to her.



Thanks so much!

Tabitha - posted on 04/24/2009

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I agree with Jennie. Sit her down and talk to her. My oldest daughter is 12 (13 in October) and she has already shown an interest in boys. Try to keep the lines of communication open as much as possible. Is there an Aunt, Grandma or other adult she can turn to if needs be. As a mom in pretty much the same situation I know talking to my daughter is difficult. Most of the time she is on the defensive even if its unwaranted. Stay consistant about keeping communication lines open and guide her the best you can. It's a tough age for them and us both. They think they know it all and mom don't know much. If you're unsure of how to approach the subject you might try talking to her pediatrician and see if he/she has some suggestions for you. Mine has been talking to a 12 year old in Ohio on My Space. Already spoke with his mom that's how I know he's 12. Just do your best to listen to her and be open to any questions she may have for you. Hardest talk I've ever had with mine. Still not looking forward to the other two. (Three girls.)

Jennie - posted on 04/21/2009

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Well first of all you dont want to yell at her because then shes going to wanna do it cause shes mad and still so young and dont understand. Sit her down and talk to her about this boy and tell her that you are concerned and why. And see what she has to say back. My kids are so young under 4yrs but I know how it was for me when my mother yelled at me and I would go and do it anyways cause i was mad. Just be calm when you talk to her and best of luck I know its going to be hard when my two little girls grow up not looking forward to it. Good Luck again and hope it works for you if not I suggest birth control. The Depo shot worked really good for me other wise I am now on the 5 year plan and they also have a 10year plan so talk to her about those options to as hard as it is to think about your baby growing up and mybe a little to fast its better to be safe then sorry right. Hope the bast for you. If you have any other questions for me shot me an email on here or at my personal email keegs_my_angel@yahoo.com

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