Teenagers.

Lamore - posted on 09/27/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I have 2 teenage girls. I wants to date. Ive been telling her to wait until 16yoa. Well she will be 16 this December. I am afraid for her to go out on a date. Reasoning is that Ive protected her so long afraid that she will be hurt. I know she has to experience life but now. Help!!

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User - posted on 09/29/2009

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It is not easy! Take it slow! Always demand to meet who she is going out with. Have the young man over for the first 2-3 dates, Invite him to dinner, family outings,etc. Then when you feel comfortable, then try group dating, with other friends their age, driven to and from by you or another adult. then slowly let her go out with him by herself. By the time u have completed this she will be closer to 17 and you wil fel more comfortable.

Sonya - posted on 09/29/2009

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You have raised your child and instilled your values and morals. You have to give her the oppurtunity to succeed or fail. This is how responsible adults are made. My daughter is 18 and I could not be prouder. Not to say she was a perfect teenager cause she wasn't but by the time she graduated she had her head on straight. I bawled my eyes out the first time my daughter drove into town by herself but i had to let her grow up. It is very difficult but trust her and her instincts. You'll do whats right

Jennifer - posted on 09/27/2009

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i understand. I have a daughter also and she is 16. We have to trust our children and also pray. If you have raised her right and i believe you have,let her experience life. She will be ok and so will u...lol

Lisa - posted on 09/27/2009

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Hi lamore your at the age im dreading but if it was me u have to let her date she will always be your little girl and it will never b the right time in your eyes, she must b a good girl to have a parent who worries like you its all bout trust and bounderies, tell her u want to meet him first, u want to know where they are going and tell her wot time to come in if she doesnt comply then u dont let her do it again for a couple of months i think if you stop her completely she will do it behind your back.

Victoria - posted on 09/27/2009

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Hi Lamore. Our daughter is 16 years old too. If she wants to go out with a guy, we need to first meet him. We've implemented the rule that for the first 2 or 3 times, the guy has to visit her at our house. If he is a decent guy, he should be able to accept this, and then they may go out to a place that we approve of. Hope this advice helps you.

Annette - posted on 09/27/2009

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Hi, my girls started going out in a small group of boys and girls. They went on school/college trips and got used to being among 'the outside world' and how people reacted to one another.

I know it was a long time ago 25 years in fact; but I (gritted my teeth) just asked for her to let me have the name of who she was going out with, where she was going, and enough money for her to make a phone call or get a taxi home. (way before e-mails and mobiles)

I know it's really hard for you to want to know everything and 'grill' them, but you have to build trust; and you know you've done a good job of raising them to know right from wrong. :)

Both my girls left home for college at 16, (and I was divorced) but I had the reassurance that I'd done the best I could.

You may be frazzled with all the worry, but you will have children that love and respect you.

Delani - posted on 09/27/2009

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One thing I have realizes it that no matter how much we protect our children there is always that chance. You just have to have enough faith in her that she wont make the wrong decision and if you dont feel comfortable with her dating then dont let her and talk to her about it and also you could tell her that you have to meet the boy first before they go out.

User - posted on 09/27/2009

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Lamore, I am not there yet but I think the best way is to let her at least talk with boys on the phone and make sure you get to meet him first. For me when I started dating we went out in groups of friends. No one on one right now. She needs to prove her worthy of the trust.

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