Time and Money

Wendy - posted on 10/07/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




I used to work really REALLY close to home. About 2 minutes from the school and 3 minutes from the house. So, even though I felt as if I didn't have enough time with my 2 youngest kids (boy 12 and girl 10), I definitely have rethought that situation!
I took a job 4 years ago in another city, 45/60 mins away from home and school. I REALLY feel as if I haven't enough time with them now. I wonder sometimes if the kids will appreciate the $9,000.00 a year raise I got with the move or if we'd be better off struggling financially, but being closer together? How do they feel about it now, you ask? They HATE that I can't be there for them... Claim that they NEVER get to spend any time with me.. etc...
I am gone from 7 am until I arrive home at 6 pm. Bedtime is 10 (which I feel is about an hour too late for them, but I am trying to make up for one of the lost hours. It's really hard being a single working mom... with the 'donor' gone for 3 years with no contact at all. Yep, it's just me and the kids. I am married to my career and all my spare time is spent at home with the kids. What do you all think?


Amy - posted on 10/07/2011




I think you need to do what's right for you. I actually just took a pay cut to be 15 minutes from home. I used to have an hour commute too and from work, actually on the way home it was closer to two hours if I had to pick the kids up. My job was quite stressful and I didn't feel like I had any real job security, so after working the figures and doing some math the pay cut really isn't a paycut. A full tank of gas lasts me more then 3 days, I get 13 more days of time to spend with my family because I don't have the commute, I'm saving my car it currently has 200,000 miles on it and I'm hoping to get another year at least before I have to replace it. I made the right decision for me and my family, I'm not a single mom but my husband works 3rd shift so I have to do dinner, homework, bath/bed by myself. If I were you I'd truly look at the cost of the commute, gas, the extra time of daycare, and determine how much money of that pay increase you are actually keeping, especially if you are that miserable. Good luck to you!


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Teresa - posted on 10/13/2011




Kids are with us for such a short period of life. Once you have kids, THAT is your priority. As long as they are healthy and happy and have a good relationship with you then do your best.I live in a n old farm house on my husband's grnadmother's property so we don't have a morgtage to pay for. I have a 2004 Toyota Corolla so we don't have a car payment. I don't have a lot of thingas because my job allows me to be with my kids. That is what we have found to work. You will find what works for and your kids.

Wendy - posted on 10/10/2011




I didn't add that I do love my job also. I love my kids more :) And I don't pay for or need daycare. The kids are doing great with the current arrangement. Other than they don't like that they don't see me as much as they'd like. Thanks Amy for your post. The raise I took is only changed by the cost of fuel and wear and tear on my car. I have 156k miles on it, and was actually thinking of springing for the new one so I don't have the added worry of the car quitting on me. I have been lucky so far. I'm not even close to miserable, but just wondering what other moms think. I would say that I am more like 'stuck' in a time warp. lol

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