Trouble juggling work, family and career opportunity.

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I have been working at this job that is stressing me out, even though it is meaningful work (answering a tenant dispute help hotline) and I have a supportive (also working mom boss). I applied for a lateral move job that was much more inspiring to me and i got an interview! However I am so brain tired that I haven't managed to write a Thank you note for the interview. To be honest procrastination and perfectionism are 2 of my main faults in life, but I did want to vent about how hard it is to struggle and juggle sometimes. I see that my husband carves out more time for career building and goes for it with less guilt. My kids are 3 and 7 years, so should I just consider this a do the best that I can time?


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Kim - posted on 07/05/2009




It's kind of like a relief to hear that others face the same struggles as I do. When I try to explain to my partner why I'm frustrated he just doesnt get it. I give props to those who have their parents around to help them.

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Thanks everyone for your sharing! I talked with my sister in law who said "Hey don't worry about it, I got my new job without a thank you note". I also feel much better after a relaxing week end with the kids. Tomorrow I am sending them off to camp and super baby sitter and taking 1 vacation day @ home (and my beloved garden) with my husband. It is amazing how precious time with loved ones and time for one self is!

Jennifer - posted on 07/04/2009




I can agree with you. I am in the military and recently had to deploy. We only have one child, but I often feel torn between all the stuff at home, work, etc. I don't want to leave my job - I am only 4 years from retirement, however, sometimes I can't get my mind together to do all the stuff I would like to do (like photo books). One thing I have learned is that it is important to enjoy the time you have with them as you never know when you won't have it!

Chiara - posted on 07/03/2009




I just read a wonderful book, Womenomics by Claire Shipman and Katty Kay. It offers some real perspective on finding balance.

Maureen - posted on 07/03/2009




You hit the nail right on the head with your comment about men. How come they are not expected to feel any guilt trying to do the home / work juggle. And, why oh why are so many women making the comment about ' deciding to work ? Yah, and i decided to provide a home , food and education for my child. I consider my husband and I as partners in life - we share responsibilities. Well, I seem to get stuck with the toilet cleaning but you know how that goes ! lol. It does seem to get better as your kids get a bit older, if that helps. I do remember feeling brain dead many days at work. I was fortunate to have been able to take a couple of summers off though. My hubby is self employed and works 6 days / wk. My parents have been a huge help too.

Your job sounds really interesting ! And I'm glad you've still got the gumption to keep trying for more inspiring positions. Just remember to schedule in time for yourself, even if just an hour here or there. Take lunch by yourself just to daydream... we all need that to keep up our spirits . 'cause that toilet is still waiting for us to flush and clean it !! lol

Stacey - posted on 07/02/2009




I'm struggling with the same feelings right now with a 15 mo. at home. It doesn't seem that the men go through as much emotional stress and struggle as we mothers do. It's hard to get their understanding and empathy of what you're dealing with. Then you have to try to focus on just your work for 40 hours a week, come home and make dinner, be a mom, and take care of chores at home. Where's the time to unwind? Where's the me time? An hour on Sunday? No...I've been struggling lately with getting easily frustrated with everyone around me - my boss, my son, my friends, and my husband. I'm seriously considering leaving my job b/c I'm so focused on my son and it's interfering with my work. I don't have any patience at the end of the work day, and don't get a chance to unwind each day before taking on my motherly responsibilities. It's very hard to juggle, and right now while he's young and with us wanting to try for baby number 2, I'm seriously considering working part-time as a compromise. If you can afford to do that, I'd suggest it, too. Hope it helps to know that there's someone else out there with the same struggles!

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