Use of hate

Holly - posted on 03/13/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My daugther has changed in a period of 3 weeks. She went from I can't wait for School vacation to be over so that I can do to school to now saying she hates school, she hates her sister, she hates that we have rules. she is 6 years old and is the most loving child.

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Amanda - posted on 03/18/2009

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It  may be that there are kids around her that use the word quite flippantly and she has picked up on it.  My daughter did the same with "hate" I hate this, and I hate that, hate the dog, hate school, hate her hat, hate her hair, hate the dinner - more than likely she doesn't but is just using it in a sentence.  Our latest is "this is boring" "school is boring" "Dinner is boring" "school uniform is boring" the list goes on and on ....- I wouldn't worry too much - it'll pass !

Amanda - posted on 03/18/2009

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It  may be that there are kids around her that use the word quite flippantly and she has picked up on it.  My daughter did the same with "hate" I hate this, and I hate that, hate the dog, hate school, hate her hat, hate her hair, hate the dinner - more than likely she doesn't but is just using it in a sentence.  Our latest is "this is boring" "school is boring" "Dinner is boring" "school uniform is boring" the list goes on and on ....- I wouldn't worry too much - it'll pass !

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hmm it sounds like she have a issue her... ask her what makes her so angry. maybe it's someone that have sayd or done something to here..

Kim - posted on 03/17/2009

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I am a firm believer in asking the question, "What do you want"? If she doesn't want to go to school, I'd continue to ask, "If you weren't at school where would you be"? Find out if there is any way for her to have what she wants and still go to school. Let her know that school attendance at her age is non-negotiable. So, if she must go to school, how can she make it better while she is there.

As for the sister, one of the things I like to recommend for siblings is to ask the question at bedtime, what's one thing your sister did or said today that was kind, loving or helpful? Then I would ask her sister the same question to generate a positive exchange of good feelings. If you try it, let me know how it goes.

Sincerely,

Kim Olver
http://www.empowermentparenting.com

Cassydy - posted on 03/13/2009

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I would ask if your daughter knew why she hated the things that she hates. But most importantly i would teach her not to hate her sister.

Crystal - posted on 03/13/2009

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Ask her if there is something going on at school to cause her to not want to be there... it could also just be a phase. I've watched my sister (who is now 11) go in and out of I hate the world phases... now she's in one that will probably last till she's 19 or 20. It could also have something to do with her teacher. I started hating school when one of my teachers (who was a very racist native) started picking on me...

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