What do you do with 2 daughters that are only a yr. and a half apart. How do you stop the fighting?

Michelle - posted on 04/03/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )




Sisters? How do I stop them from fighting physically? Their dad says let them duke it out.


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Alison - posted on 04/05/2010




How old are the girls? If my girls fight over a toy, I take it away. If they intentionally bite or seriously hurt the other, they get a time out followed by an apology and a hug, if it is unintentional, they need to apologize and hug. If it is just petty fighting (including some hitting and kicking), I encourage them to sort it out and try not to get involved.

Your girls need to learn to resolve conflict without intervention. Also, keep in mind that the fighting dynamic is fed by a longing for positive and negative attention from the parents or caregivers. Don't let them use it as a tool to get more attention from you.

Kimberly - posted on 04/05/2010




This might sound a little weird, but my aunt had the most innovative way of dealing with her girls, that were also very close in age. When they would fight, she made them sit on the couch and hold hands. They would cry and swat at each other, but my aunt would sit on a chair across from them and watch to make sure it didn't get out of hand. Eventually they would stop and would hug and make up.

As they have grown, I have never seen two sisters more close. Both are mommies now and i'm sure they do this technique with their own kids.

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