What do you do with a teenager who wants to go her own way?


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Lori - posted on 03/04/2009




All we can do is to teach whats right :).  What ever they choose, even if you don't agree, remember they will always come back to what is right.  I know this from experience.  But it also matters what age your dealing with, but eventually they will do what they want, because they need to learn things for themselves.  It is always harder on the parent than the child.  I've never understood why we can't learn or choose not to learn from others mistakes and challenges in life.

Lacey - posted on 03/04/2009




Definitely pick your battles and be consistent. Decide what you believe in and want to stand for. Then do not waiver when she is pushing your buttons.

Ruth - posted on 03/04/2009




Hi. Can you send more details. It's tough to know without knowing more. I recently wrote about Dr. Foster Cline, who is credited with coining the term "helicopter parenting." He has some great tips for parents with teens that I found very helpful. He doesn't limit his discussion to helicopter parenting.

Here the link: http://suchasmartmom.com/2009/02/25/heli...

Best of luck with you daughter. Ruth

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Depends on the age and what it is they want to do...

And, yes, Angela is right about picking your battles.

But you also must not compromise on your core values.

Angela - posted on 02/28/2009




Let them- when it's appropriate, otherwise, let them know that you cannot allow what it is they want- for their own best interest- don't sweat the small stuff i.e. wearing uber black eyeliner at dinner etc

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