what to do with a child who is 11 but wants to carry herself as a 13 yr old.

Tiffany - posted on 09/03/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




she wants to date 14 yr old boys

she does not want help from her mom or dad


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Jackie - posted on 09/03/2009




I discused this with my partner and we think that it is difficult with girls, I think if you stop her she will do it anyway and if you treat her like an adult to a certain extent she will make her own decision and probably make the right one, As you are leaving her to make up her own mind she will probably act more responsible then if you tell her what to do. But you also have to lay down some rules but make her feel like she has a say in the rules. Give her choices, if I let you stay out later then she has to appreciaite that she is being treated as a grown up and therefore has to act more grown up.

I was never told what to do and as a result I never crossed the line but I was given boudaries but not ultimatims

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Hi Tiffany, Maybe she needs more attention from her mom. She is allowing peers and tv to influence her judgement. Maybe have a mom and daughter date once a week if possible. Go out to eat, sit and talk to her about her thoughts and dreams. If you could get her focused on what she wants to be in life, put a picture up in her room of the college she wants to attend or the nurse she wants to become. Just let her know in a way a only a mom can, that you love her and she isn't ready to start dating. Hope this helps.

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