what would you do if you are freaking out at the very moment but you're kids will see it?

Cheng - posted on 02/25/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )




sometime my husband irritates me... by asking too many questions about work (we work on same company and our jobs are really related) or someting else and it freaks me out... most of the time this happens during dinner when all of us are present!!!


Teresa - posted on 02/26/2010




first off i would say you need to breath. Take a deep breath and get focussed. Ask yourself, are the questions he is asking really that irritating that you need to freak out?? Is is worth getting upset about? And do you really want your daughter seeing/hearing you and your husband (her security) lose control??

I think most couples get irritated with each other, but you need to learn coping skills to manage your temper so that things don't get out of hand.

Could you and your husband make an agreement for no "shop talk" at the dinner table. Or tell him how it bothers you when he discusses work issues and what both of you can do to prevent this so you both don't show bitterness or anger in front of you child. Talk to your child to. Apologize, tell her that you are under stress and you didn't mean to act that way. Maybe all of you guys can discuss coping skills as a family.

I have had moments too where i have lost control in front of my children and i seen how it affects them. I try my hardest to prevent it. I think children need to understand that couples do have disagreements, but i think they also need to see how adults can deal with their problems without yelling and flipping out.

Good luck.

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