Why are teenagers so difficult to deal with?

Michelle - posted on 05/17/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




I have a 13yr old son & he is very disrespectful towards everyone in my house,,, If anyone speaks to him,he acts like he didnt hear you & stays sucking his teeth. He wants to act like something he is not.


Louise - posted on 05/17/2011




Having raised two teenage sons I know exactly what you are saying. I am sorry to say that the dark years last about 2-3 years before you see your loving respectful son appear again. Both my sons went through this and it is awful for everybody in the house. It really is a difficult time for all of you. I was pleased to have gotten my sons into male orientated clubs like Royal Air Force Cadets and Sea Cadets where they learnt respect and were in a male dominated club where they had to give the officers respect or they were punished with horrible jobs to do like tidying up the mess hall. These clubs were a God send because my boys loved going as they saw it as a lads social group they loved to camp and sail and do other things they never had access to before. I really think it did them good to have other male role models in ther life that were not brothers or dads. It gave them somewhere to vent and be themselves with out any pressures from home.

If you can look for something like this for your son he will protest at first but when he goes he really will enjoy it and it will help him no end through these difficult times.


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Jen - posted on 05/17/2011




Cadets are great; if you can get your teenagers into it. One of my teens is in it and he loves it. The other was in too; but he's almost got adhd where he quits things after a couple months.

I'm going to put that one in an outdoor's ed club/class. where they do a lot of active things; but its all different.

I agree, so far its good for my kids that are in the program.

Jen - posted on 05/17/2011




I tell my teen boy's their brains are mush; and their brains will go back to normal once they turn 19 or 20. I have a 13 year old and an almost-15 year old.

My 13 year old hasn't acted up too much yet; but I've been warning him since he was 2, that I won't put up with teenager attitude. The eye rolls, the "I know everything" attitude etc. The almost-15 year old was adopted though; and didn't get a chance to grow up being warned.

All the stuff I tell my kids about teenagers, they see in the 15 year old. lol. So hopefully it helps my other kids skip the worst side-affects of being a teenager.

I found a sense of humour helps. Either it irritates the 15 year old more; or it turns it into something to laugh about..and he goes back to being a normal human being for a bit.

Caroline - posted on 05/17/2011




cause they're teenagers, can't live with them, can't kill them (though it feels like you want to sometimes lol). i agree, it's a stage that they're trying to tell themselves they don't need you or to be told what to do while they're getting ready to go out on their own. mine (14 and 11) go through phases where they'd blow up over nothing and the next day be all sweetness and light. joining groups are a good idea for teaching respect etc., my oldest is in a first aid organisation which has ranks etc so she's taught how to treat people with respect and learn a skill too. We were never like that ..... i know, myself, i was a little angel ........

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