Why is it so hard got any suggestions????

De'annah - posted on 01/23/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




I am a working mom 21yr.old mom of 3 kids my boys are 3 and 2 and my girl is 3. Im currently working as a cocktail waitress and Im trying to build a wedding planning business. I am currently in college, and I am struggling financially and lack of sleep, and no time for me and my fiance or me and the kids. It seems like all I do is work can anybody give any suggestions?? Do i need not to follow my dreams and be a mom instead or do both?


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S Detray - posted on 03/19/2010




You have taken on an incredible task! Congrats!! It is understandable that you are tired and struggling with everything that you have on your plate but I believe you can do it!! Just don't try and do it by yourself! Ask others for help too, create an extended family for yourself that can be there for your children and yourself, be it within your church, girlfriends or blood relatives. Many churches offer Mommy's day out, take advantage of it. Plan ahead activites that can be done to accomplish at least 2 things at once.. quality time with one of your children, fiance or future business. 15 minutes of good planning is worth hours of success!!
Good luck!

Claudia - posted on 03/19/2010




I'm no pro, but i'v been n ur shoes, so i'm tlk'n frm my error & trials:

ask urslf these questions:
1) does my soon 2 b life long partner: hav a job?
if yes great =).
if not, he should strt look'n, o bttr yet tell him bye-bye.

2) if he's work'n: wht part of his incom pays 4 wht n th household?
all bill. 1/2 bills o nothing.

3) ur n collge rght, who watches the kids while ur gone, ur partner, fam o daycare?

4) u may need to ask urslf ths: whts mor important. KIDS CAREER & U
o all 3 w/o ur fiance?

5) bttr yet, u may need to tlk 2 som1 @ ur local Soc. Serv. and they cn help u manage ur time w some healthier ideas, so tht u won't feel lik ur burn'n th candel @ both ends.

good-luck and tell me how it goes,k.

claudia a

Alsynnia - posted on 03/19/2010





I am a stay at home mom and a full-time college student so it is possible to do both. I was a 40 hour week person I felt like I was missing so much of what my kids was doing while I was at work so I started to research companies and I found one. I have a business with a company name Nu Skin Enterprise they are with the BBB and licensed with the DSA Direct Selling Association I believe that they have been a great blessing to me and my family I have the time with my kids I need and I get to finish school so if you are interested in knowing more about it go to www.aowens.looknowmakemoney.com fill in the form fill at the end and I will call and give you more information Thanks I am ready to help a mom be with her kids like I am with mine all day everyday and love it.


Kimberly - posted on 01/23/2010




It sounds like you have a lot going on, but kudos to you for doing it!

I try to squeeze in some me time once a week. I have a standing "coffee bar" date with some friends, and make arrangements with hubby, or if he's working more, someone else. This allows me a few hours and I look forward to it. It's just a little something, but it's something. At work, I walk on lunch breaks often, to try to get some exercise in.

I think that you can do both. All of this is temporary, right? You won't be in school forever, you won't be trying to start a business forever, and sometimes, something has to give, but it might mean to just scale back in one area a little (and that shouldn't be your sleep). Hang in there hon!

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