Will have another baby but only if I can be a stay-at home mom

Samantha - posted on 07/27/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




I know that sounds terrible. And I know you can have both- I'm doing it now- you all are doing it. The problem is I don't WANT to do it. I was a sahm with my kids when they were young and now they are school-age. I would still love to be home with them when they get home from school, etc. but I'm divorced/remarried and have to work. My new hubby and I would love to have another baby but I'm feeling like what would be the point if I won't be around that much to enjoy him/her. So I'm opting not to have another for that reason. I'm not looking for validation on my decision but just wondering if anyone out there feels the same or is in the same boat? Maybe because I was a sahm I just can't imagine leaving my babies. Ugh...it's so hard.


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Trina - posted on 07/30/2009




Working from home has it's challenges. Having a supportive spouse is essential. My husband and I are both self employed so we alternate days. The trick is finding something you love to do. But know this, there will still be large sacrifices in time, they will just be when it's more on your terms.

Monica - posted on 07/30/2009




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Monica - posted on 07/27/2009




I too feel ready physically & emotionally for another child. But so many other things I have to think about: daycare, $$$, insurance. Staying at home would be great, I don't know if its a reality for my future.

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I know exactly what you mean. I was a SAHM until my youngest started school. I wouldn't have changed it at all. There were times we had to do less or not get the next up to date item, but in the long run it was worth it. When I was at home I did some work by selling products through home parties. I sold AVON, clothing line through the years. It didn't make us rich, but it did help a bit. I also took a job that I could do in the evenings when my hubby was at home to be with my sons. It wasn't perfect, but it did work for the time being.

I guess I am just saying to look at all the options before you close the door on having another child. How old are your other children? Would they be able to help out with child care? My oldest was 16 when I went back to work and he was a big help with being with his youngest brother after school.

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