Work and Home

Shanetta - posted on 08/22/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




How have you managed work and home responsiblities, without falling apart?


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Helen - posted on 08/24/2009




i work 6 days from 6 until 6 then have preparation to do for school - i make sure that from the second i step in the door until my sons bedtime then he has my attention during the week. Appart from washing up then all house work is left to the weekend. Quite often my little boy will sleep until 8am on a saturday so i get up at 5 as usual and get all the housework done (appart from the hovering) in those 3 hours i then play for the rest of the day - when he has a nap mid afternoon then i do to to make up for the morning.Each holiday and half term i also get grandparents to have him for 1 day so i can get all of those odd jobs done tha i dont have time for normally. Even if daddy just takes the kids out for 2 hours a week you can get 10 times more housework done without them around. It is a real struggle but i just remind myself how dull life would be without my son.

Kathleen - posted on 08/23/2009




I went back to work 3 weeks ago, and am really trying to get used to the schedule. Because of the distance, I'm out of the house from 6am until after 6pm every night. I learned how to let things go and only focus on what important in my limited time with my son. I have learned to compromise: the house won't always be clean and the dishes don't always get done, but I enjoy my time with my son.

Kristina - posted on 08/23/2009




I was told by a dear friend, "Cleaning your house when your kids are young is like shoveling snow in a blizzard." A mess can wait, have fun with your children and prioritize what's most important :)

Kennie - posted on 08/23/2009




The word perfectionist goes out the door. I learned a long time ago to let the little things go and compromise. So what if the house is not spotless and the toys are not always in their proper place. You have more important things to think about.

I work full time and then take care of my kids ( all boys, 5 y/o and 2 y/o twins) after I get home from work. My husband and I have opposing work schedules and pretty much see each other in passing.

I have ALWAYS worked with a "to do" list. It keeps me organized and helps me prioritize what I have to do. I will cross each item off the list after I have completed it.... gives me some sense of accomplishment. Especially after a crazy day and you feel like you haven't accomplished anything.

Remember, you are not superwoman. I learned that a long time ago as well. Ask for help. People are willing to help just as long as you are willing to ask for it. You wouldn't realize just how many people come out of the wood works that are willing to do things for you. Most people, themselves are mothers and understand how it is.

Last, I know it is hard... I'm guilty of this myself. When you leave work.... LEAVE WORK!!!!! Do not bring it home with you!!!!! When your work day is through..... focus on your family and cherish the times you spend with them. Love and live every moment with your family, even the bad ones. They go by so fast.

Best of luck and I hope this helped. Write if you need anything, if nothing else... just to commiserate!

Sherri - posted on 08/22/2009




Lots of trial... and even more error.

I agree with the other suggestions as well. Try different things. While you're goign through trial and error-remember that if things do fall apart and your house is a little messy, it's not the end of the world. We (females) expect too much of ourselves. I'm the worst offender of that one. :)

Kristina - posted on 08/22/2009




One day at a time! I like to have a "to do" list written out for me to see. I have one with work stuff and one with home stuff. On days I feel like I am going to fall apart, I do one of 3 things....1. Put everything off until the next day and take a hot shower or bath, 2. Get the most important things done and checked off, or 3. Ask for help!...I guess you can add a 4th, just cry.

I know this may not have helped much, but maybe it will let you know that you are not alone :) It's definitely a struggle juggling both. I just try to stay organized and that has helped a lot.

Best of luck, Kristina

Juliet - posted on 08/22/2009




You got to do what's right for you. If you can't cope with it all, don't be afraid to ask for help, we all need that vital support, it's very important. we mums try to be superwomen, but you can't do it all, or else you will feel run down and ill. we all need help and support from familys and friends. seek out help, whether it's at home or at work, and if work is getting you down, perhaps you should try a different job. I have just gone back to work after 8 years of being a full-time mum, i am doing an evening job as it fits in with my family and i am loving it, i have help and support with my children when i am at work as then my husband is home to look after them. Its not easy at times, and i never had much other support when my boys were younger so i couldn't go to work. That was tough, but now because i have done that, now i feel happier in myself and doing what i want to do. hope things work out for you.

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