Working Full Time

Tessa - posted on 07/23/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I work full time for Queensland Health. My grandmother (78yrs) is a great help and looks after my 9month old daughter while Im at work.

People in my workplace dont seem to understand that I need to be flexible and I need to leave early sometimes as my grandmother is elderly and I dont want to exhaust her. There is a lady here who just leaves every day at 4.15 no matter what, even when I say that I need to leave early to pick up my daughter! So I have to call my grandmother and ask her if she can please meet me later in the afternoon. Im scared this is too much for her, I know that I am getting so exhausted working 8 - 4.30 every day, what do I do?

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Katrisha Ann - posted on 08/07/2009

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Hi Tessa,

I am also working full time and I understand what you are going through. It is good to know that you have moved with your husband's mother so she can help you with taking care of you baby. I know how difficult it is to be working and at the same time coming home and still there are a lot of things needed to be done. Just keep the faith.

Nicole - posted on 08/07/2009

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Hey Tessa, I'm a professional working mum in Australia - I live in NSW and can completely understand what you are saying. Doesn't Queensland Health have flexible working hours & work life balance policies, most companies do these days and it's important to diplomatically raise it with management. In my last job nearly my entire team was working mums and what got us through was support for each other & flexibility. It certainly made for a much better environment and hard working team. Do you have an EEO representative, I would suggest you talk to them as policies should be fairly applied across the work force. Cheers Nicole

Tessa - posted on 08/06/2009

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Thank you all for your help. My partner and I had to move in with his mother because long story short the lady we were sub letting off was a bitch for no good reason. So now his mother, who doesnt "work" (she still looks after his little sister who is in a wheelchair and cleans around the house etc.) is going to look after lily a couple of days a week, that way its not too much for my grandmother or mother in law and everyone still gets to spend time with Lily. Its great. The ladies at work still arnt great but ive decorated my wall with hundereds of photos of Jamie and Lily so i feel happier at work anyway!

Claudia - posted on 07/27/2009

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I think there comes a time when you have to ask yourself how bad do you want to change your circumstance and how willing are you to set out of your comfort zone and make that change. You can always find (and I'm sure eventually will) an arrangement to accommodate your situation, but in time that will eventually change again and you may find yourself back in the same dilema. Have you thought about other income options outside of what you currently do? There's a mom in my group of people that I work with who used to a successful attorney, but never saw her son and destroyed her marriage. She's one of my mentors in the business I do now and her best month as I recall was $49,000 (USD), she's now home and travels with her son as this business we do is very family oriented. Just a thought to throw out there and perhaps make you wonder.


Queensland Health (?), as in Queensland, Australia? I work with an international company in the personal development field, and we have a HUGE group in Australia (which is why I asked) - if by any chance interested, you're welcome to see my webpage and just hear some of the testimonials from some of the people I work with, and if you're so inclined, you can fill out the short form and I'll contact you directly. In the meantime, all the best to you and I wish you success. Claudia

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Rosemary - posted on 07/24/2009

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Use your ferocious mother inside to look at your shift, do what this other woman does and just do your hours and go.... balancing home budget, Tessa time and what will work for you in your relationship with your child is hard but at least you are considering it thoughtfully before you (or her) has a nervy turn!!!

i'm studying at the moment (masters in early childhood) people some times get scared that too many carers is too hard for babies, but they can have up to 5 care relationships each week (same 5 every week) and there are no developmental deficits. fewer is easier as people need to be aware of the predictable patterns your child is used to (to settle etc) but more are necessary when your options are limited...

Kay - posted on 07/24/2009

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Is there anyway that you could hire a part-time sitter? Maybe your grandmother could watch the baby in the mornings until noon? then you could have a sitter for the afternoon.

Could you change your work schedule all-together? My daughter's father and I work opposite shifts so that we can avoid the costs of daycare. It bites, but that's what's necessary for us.

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