Working mother of two debating having a third???

Alisha - posted on 07/13/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




I have two beautiful, healthy little girls and my husband and I are considering having one more child. I have a great well paying career and I have finally found balance between my work and family/social life. My job is very family friendly and flexible but I do not work from home. My husband owns his own business and is also flexible with his job. All mothers of three that I know are stay at home moms. This is not an option for me or my family. Am I crazy to think this is possible? Is it fair to our children? I am in desperate need of advice!!


Darcel - posted on 07/14/2011




It is possible. Most stay at home moms of three are home because the child care cost of three children far exceeds the income they would generate. If you can financially, emotional, and spiritually afford to have one more child - GO FOR IT!


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Katie - posted on 08/08/2011




We are starting to wonder the exact same things. A third is very different than the 2nd. You are out numbered, have to buy a bigger car. We have 2 boys, 4 yr old (5 in Nov) and a 2 yr old. Everyday I flip back-and-forth on what I want. Can I handle it, what will it do the 2 yr old as a middle child (who is already a handful). I could stay at home but never have so that would be a huge life change. My oldest won't go to school until 2012 so we would have about 1 yr with 3 in daycare. And most of all, I feel like I they don't get enough of me as it is, let alone with a third. But oh to have another baby and sibling to play with it. So much fun for them.

Huyen - posted on 08/03/2011




I'm not sure what age your girls are but we are having a third one. I have a 1st grader and a preschooler. By next fall, both girls will be in school together and we'll be able to manage financial with one in daycare. It will be a balance if you can time it pretty good especially if your girls are getting close to school age. Best of luck!

Jessi - posted on 07/13/2011




i think that you are worrying about all the right things, and that makes me think it IS fair to your children. you obviously want to make the decision based on whats best for your children and your family as a whole. i cant say whats the right decision for you, but i can say that i have a lot of respect for how you are considering this. your concern shows that youre a loving mother, and if you decide for #3 im sure it will work out wonderfully! :)

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