Working Mum - should I feel guilty

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I am the mother of a 13 year old, a 10 year old, a 7 year old and a 5 month old. I also have a 13 year old and a 10 year old step child (yes we have 6 all up) I went back to work when my youngest baby was 8 weeks old as my husband is now the stay home dad to all of out children. I managed to breast feed bub up until about a week ago as I used to express at work but have decided to give up because I am bi polar and need to go back on my medication. I cant help but feel guilty for leaving my baby and other children while I go off to work. I love my job and the satisfaction I get from it, this makes it worse because I feel like I am choosing work over my baby. I stayed home with my eldest three children but my husband asked if he could stay home with this one as he wanted the opportunity to experience the stay home parent thing. He is a great father and a chef at that so I come home to a home cooked meal, clean house, all the washing, gardening done and all the children showered, basically he is a much better stay home parent than I could even hope to be. But through all this I cant help but feel guilty. I guess I am just looking for some reassurance that I should not feel guilty here.


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Tiffany - posted on 10/27/2008




I second the comment that your kids will see a great role model in both of their parents - no gender bias in your house! As for the breastfeeding - I've read studies that 80%+ of the benefits of breastfeeding occur in the first 6 weeks. That you made it this far, you've given your baby most of the benefits. Take care of yourself and be a good example to your kids Everyone's needs are important.

Heather - posted on 10/25/2008




Don't feel guilty. A happy mom is the best type of mom. So, go back to work, enjoy it and get back on your medicine. You'll feel better and your children will have a wonderful happy mom to look forward to seeing each day when you get home. You are also a great role model for your girls... to see that they can grow up have a family and a career is so important.

Beth - posted on 10/20/2008




Don't feel guilty. Parents are partners and the best partners are those that go with their strengths to make the whole the best it can be. Sounds like your husband has strengths in the area of home making and you in the office - just because those aren't the "typical" areas for your genders, doesn't make it wrong. Forget what others are doing and look at what works for your family.

Brandi - posted on 10/20/2008




You should not feel guilty for leaving your child at home. Your child has the next best thing, DAD. It is so wonderful that he wants to be so involved and I think it is important. Most fathers would not take on that kind of responsibility. You are truly blessed to have the situation you have. Enjoy it.

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