Working, Nursing School, and Kids

Shannon - posted on 07/28/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




I am about to start my last year of nursing school. I also work full time and have two kids age 4 and 6. It has been ok this last couple of years, but recently they have decided to change our hour from 12 hour shifts to 10 hour shift. This means another day at work every other week. I already spend soooo much time away from my kids. I want to go part time, but we need the money and I would also like to try and get a job at this hospital as a nurse when I am done and don't want to burn any bridges. It is the only hospital in the town that I live in.
This next semester I am not going to see my children hardly at all due to class time, clinical schedule, and work. I feel torn between "keeping my foot in the door" so to speak and spending some time with my kids. A part of me says that they will survive and it is only 10 more months and it will be better by December. Please provide me with some guidance.



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Kennie - posted on 10/19/2010




It WILL be difficult but I KNOW you can do it. Just think that this is for a finite time period. In the end, you will have a wonderful and rewarding career and more time to spend with your family. I've been in this business for almost 16 years and looooove it. Couldn't think of any other profession that is so rewarding... and taxing at the same time. I already had my first son when I started graduate school. I worked full time, went to grad school full time, and did my clinical rotations full time. Had to get special permission to take all these classes full time while working full time. Also got special permission to start my clinical rotations early. There were times when I didn't see my son or husband for days... slept at the hospital after my shift then went back to school after only 1 hour of sleep. What kept me going was knowing that it would be for a finite period of time and I continue to love my career as an acute care nurse practitioner. In the end... I got to have my cake and eat it too!!! Now, I enjoy spending more time with my oldest son and twin boys. All they know is that mommy spends as much time with them during the day and go to work at night... only 3 nights a week. We enjoy a lot of family time together.

Just hang in there. It will be worth it in the end. Trust me, I have been there and the reward is so much worth all the heart-ache, lack of sleep, etc!!! Kudos to you and everybody else who work and go to school...esp nursing school. You truly have to be dedicated to do this!!!

Donna - posted on 09/17/2010




hust keep in mid it will be over soon and yur doing this to better yur life and yur families lives

Tanya - posted on 07/30/2010




Keep up the good work!!!!!! Don't stop now. Pray and have strength. Try and keep positive people around you who will look out for you and your children during this time. Ensure the people who will watch your children have their emotional and physical well-being in mind while you are gone. Write the children a short note for them to find in the morning when they wake up. Leave it just to remind them that this will be over soon and that you love them very much, that you thank them for trying to be understanding and being so patient.

Don't be discouraged only encouraged to get to the end of the tunnel and be exactly where you and your children should be as you magined when you started this hardworking journey. The fruits of your labour will shine so much on them...just keep reminding them that they are number one and you can't wait till the hard work is all over and you can spend more time with them.

Iva - posted on 07/30/2010




As a fellow full time working mom and full time student, I can offer this advice: what you are doing now is a means to an end. You won't always have this schedule once you graduate and you'll be able to see your kids more. Plus you'll be making more money and doing what you love, so everyone will be happier.

Hang in there!

Amy - posted on 07/29/2010




I agree, it's only another 10 months. It might be hard but in time your children will understand why you did that and in the long run it will help out your family.

I totally understand how you feel, I've been wanting to go back to School but have been scared to take the time away from my family. But this fall I start my MBA, and in 4 years my family will be in a better place because of it.

Just keep telling your kids you love them and that your doing this so you can get a better job to help buy them all the fun stuff they like!

Daphne - posted on 07/29/2010




It may be hard but think of it that you are going to be able to provide a future for them. It may be long but 10 more months and you will be able to have the career you want and spend the rest of the time spending it with your children. What you could do is when you graduate and if there is time and money available, plan a trip with the family. Things do play out right in the end if you have faith. I'm looking into going into nursing or radiology and I'll be dealing with the same situation.

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