working vs. staying home

Bianca - posted on 09/25/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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so i started out motherhood as a stay at home mom...loved it, was home for 2 years with my son, then i got the itch to go back to work. i started out part time and it was good then the hours opend up and i went full time. my husband and i seperated for about 6 months so i really needed the money and i was ok with it all. now my husband and i have gotten back together and i am seriously feeling the pains of not being a SHM. i feel like i am missing so much of my sons life and i really want to have another child and be home with both of my kids. i feel like its the most important job i have ever had and that i am missing so much right now. alas i feel guilty because i have a great job in a time when people are grasping for jobs. we can make it on the money my husband makes so thats not a worry but im just not sure how to proceed. any suggestions? feelings? opinions? thanks so much.

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Bianca - posted on 09/26/2009

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thank you all so much for your input. i really appreciate it alot! its given me so much to think about.

Erin - posted on 09/26/2009

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get a work from home job..thats what i do ..and its great..im home with my son all day and get paid..

Jessica - posted on 09/25/2009

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I know how you feel. Being able to spend time with my family is imporntant to me too. If you want to stay at home but still get paid to have girl time check out my site it totally changed my life. Good luck! www.partylite.biz/artofambiance

Brandy - posted on 09/25/2009

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I think you should find a balance. Although it is wonderful to stay at home with your children you have to have some security for yourself. It is always nice to tuck away some extra money so a job certainly would probably help. Your son seems like he is at the age where he could join a play group or go to preschool a couple times a week. So if you could at least work a couple times a week that would be my suggestion. I too was a SAHM and my husband and I seperated it was very tough finding a job after all that time. And of course you have to stay at the bottom of the career ladder. Looking 15 years into the future when your kids don't need you to be at home and need you to pay for college you don't want to be struggling to find work. So even though your husbands job may be paying the bills you have to look towards the future.

Alison - posted on 09/25/2009

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I find it helps to jump forward 20-30 years into the future. When your children are grown, you will not regret the time that you spent with them or the years that you could have been working.



In my opinion, part-time work is the greatest blessing for a mom.

Julia - posted on 09/25/2009

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Follow your heart. If you really want to keep your job, ask your boss if you can reduce your hours or come in 2-3 days a week. There is always a way, just see if your boss is open to creative solutions to your dilema.

Brandy - posted on 09/25/2009

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I too have been in your shoes.. I think if you have the opportunity to stay home girl go for it! I'm a single mom of 2 kidos and have my own house cleaning biz and i set my own hours and days ... i love it! I'm with my kids and still get to work..

Good luck to you and best wishes

Brandy

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