When your baby is sad when your sad. what can you do to make it better?

Katrina - posted on 03/14/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




My 7 month old son gets sad when i cry, is that normal it makes me worried that it will affect his attitude developement? I love my son dearly and when im upset i try to act like nothing is wrong but he can still sence it. am i crazy or is he really reacting to my moods and how can i make things better.


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Sarah - posted on 06/18/2010




My son is 2y9mo and i'm a sucker for it too. I cry in front of him sometimes and he always gets that concerned look, comes up and cuddles me and says its alright mummy, i make you all better. That always makes me smile and i just hold him tight, tell him i love him and that he's my little sunshine. I say "mummys ok, just a bit sad (or sore or whatever reason i'm crying)" and say "thankyou for making mummy happy". Then he smiles and goes about playing again because he know's i'm ok. I'm usually able to stop crying by then cos he really is a little angel and brings a smile to my face being so sweet.
Your baby may not be able to understand all that talk yet but if you find you can cuddle him and say you love him, he may be able to sense comfort rather than your sadness and it'll make you both more at peace.
It is hard though, we are all humans and need to cry instead of bottle it up. But i find it helps the bonding with your little one as it brings you closer together :)

Amber - posted on 03/15/2010




You're not crazy, kids are smart and they know when something is up. Its hard being a full time mom and being little miss sunshine all the time, my sister has four kids and I've seen how they react to their parent being upset or angry. I say sometimes you need your sad momments to make the happier ones that much better. I don't think it will stunt his emotional developement because he knows you love him and you're a wonderful mom. Just think of it as he doesn't want you to be upset so it makes him upset, just like if someone you loved were crying you'd probably cry to. Its the same thing. When you're sad think of something (like your beautiful baby boy) to make you happy and just show him how much you love him. Also try talking to someone about why you're sad and I promise just letting it out will help.

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